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[Free2be]

I never tire of my husband's good company but I do wish his tasks didn't become our tasks while my tasks seem to always remain mine alone -- which are frequently interrupted for the sake of his.  "Free, will you help me?" is the oft sung song.  Our home is set up for together or apart time, as we wish, ever since he became enamored with Judge Judy and Judge Marilyn.  I set up a room I call my "Running Way from Judge Judy Room".  It has all of my creature comforts that I use only for those times when our TV tastes differ.

[libbyannE]

We aren’t always together. We each do our own thing as we choose. It’s a luxury to be together because I travelled a lot in my career, and he worked long hours. We love being together and still make each other laugh. But my husband and I don’t even watch the same things on TV. We have our own dens. I’m a night owl, but he’s in bed by 9 or 10 and up early. I spend a lot of time at the piano, but most often I use the electric keyboard with headphones so that I don’t disturb him. So we have time to ourselves while also spending many hours together. We have never had to talk about any of this. We simply get along. Beautifully.

[Desertdi]

Ain't nothin' worse than a "clinging vine"

[Diva on The Q]

Yes!!!  I think everyone is entitled to some "me" time.

[blackhole99]

We are retired and together 24/7, but we have our own rooms and TV. My husband keeps himself busy with keeping up our property outside and doing the house work and laundry. Of course I do all the cooking.I don't get busy until the Spring when the growing season starts.I always say I hope I go before he does, I think I'd have a hard time because we depend on each so much, we always have. 

[SydneyH]

Absolutely, I see no need to be tied at the hip at every turn, no thanks.......

[Lindsays Grandma]

@haddon9

@KingstonsMom 

I was married to an engineer so I understand where both of you are coming from.  Never again. 

[Lindsays Grandma]

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@chrystaltree wrote:

I do but I can only speak for myself.  I do know of 2 couples; one retired and one not.  Long time marrieds, one 50 years and the other 40 years.  Excluding work, they spend 100% of their time together.  You never see one without the other.  They do everything together but it's not for me to say that it is "too much togetherness".  Only they can make that determination.  I love my husband with all my heart, he's my everything but we each have our own lives.  Different interests, different friends.  We spend time together but we also go off and do our own thing. 

Now that sounds healthy all around for both parties, not too much of one thing, way to go Chrystaltree.

[reiki604]

LOL! Sometimes  it does feel like that!

[CAMOGIRL]

Yes.