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[Mary Bailey]

absolutely!

[Sooner]

Nope.  My husband is my best friend and we love being together and doing things together.

We do things separately, go to lunch with others, he plays golf, etc.  But no matter how much time we can be together it wouldn't be one second too much.  

We are respectful of one another, and I have to say he is the biggest blessing I could ever hope to have.  I thank God for him so often. 

[Sadiesadie]

@ECBG : So true. I worked with a lady who would do her grown kids' checkbooks because “how else would they learn” if she didn’t do it for them. What?

Cant handle any kind of smothering or hovering. Didn’t do that to our girls either and they are great strong, independent women.

We're all different and have different needs. What’s the saying? “we get the life we want and we want the life we get”

[SeaMaiden]

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@ID2 wrote:

My dh and I can't have too much togetherness! We are both retired and do everything together. We are best friends for the past 44 years. We are very affectionate and have been asked if we are newlyweds! Lol! We've been asked that a few times in the past years. We have always said that no one has the love that we share. We are madly in love and love being together=happiness. 

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@ID2   You are so blessed

[ECBG]

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@Sadiesadie wrote:

@ECBG : So true. I worked with a lady who would do her grown kids' checkbooks because “how else would they learn” if she didn’t do it for them. What?

Cant handle any kind of smothering or hovering. Didn’t do that to our girls either and they are great strong, independent women.

We're all different and have different needs. What’s the saying? “we get the life we want and we want the life we get”

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@Sadiesadie Oh, Honey!  I have a good one, although, we're actually speaking of "enameling".  I worked with a woman who was sending her divorced son with children checks because "he didn't like the jobs he held" and couldn't "afford" child support!  Now doing private sitting for the elderly because she "needs the money", she's still enabeling him!

[Bridgegal]

@chrystaltree 

Agree 100% and same here.

[jeanlake]

Inlaws are in their 80s and they just gave up the second car. Spend all day together and they've always had different personalities and interests. They call my husband daily and complain about the other one now. They are stuck.

I'm married 40 years. Husband and I have always given one another space and I sure hope we remember that when we retire. In fact, I'm thinking we should work small, part-time jobs and volunteer at different places later just to have our own interests and time. 

My older sis had what I thought was the best marriage. Her and husband retired, wealthy, at 55 and 56. They are active and love to travel. Now, ten years later, my bro-in-law doesn't smile much and looks forward to breakfast with the guys then playing golf 3 times a week. My sis has become so controlling and complaining. It's been weird to watch.    

Husband lost two friends this week - unexpected. So it's true, there may be a future time the house will be very quiet.  

[doxie1]

@CrazyKittyLvr2 

It sounds like you are under a lot of stress that tends to build up. There is nothing wrong with you having some me time to take care of your mental health. You cracked me up with the thinking you are Google. I went through that as a caregiver.

I  hope you had a relaxing evening and know you are glad your daughter brought supper.

take care

doxie

[AuntG]

So much depends on the couple. I miss my DH when he is gone, but I get so much more done when he is away. One of those balancing acts for couples to figure out.

[lovesrecess]

We both need a break from each other...especially after the hectic week we had....everyone needs some time to themself....but am not a fan of the separate vacation lifestyle....my DS and her DH decided to do that and one year he brought back a souvenir to end all souvenirs....a 22 year-old girlfriend....he was 53 at the time.