Re: Do You Believe In Too Much Togetherness?

QVCkitty1 · ‎05-23-2015

@Ketra wrote:
@QVCkitty1 wrote:
I’m an introvert and need my alone time, my nearest and dearest understand.
@QVCkitty1 Mine don’t understand, and I no longer care whether they do or not.

@Ketra @I hear you and totally understand.🌺

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Daniel Patrick Moynihan

tansy · ‎01-02-2011

@SeaMaiden wrote:
@KingstonsMom,@CrazyKittyLvr2

My DH is a retired engineer and does ABSOLUTELY NOTHING all day....watches car races on TV....sleeps.....that's about it!😄

Another poster married to a retired engineer -- lol. I'm the daughter of one and the mother of one. I'm surrounded

My husband stays busy in the mornings with pickleball, puzzles, computer games and make-work chores. I like my "me" time. We usually hang out most of the afternoon and evening together. It works well for us. I like retirement

Trinity11 · ‎11-16-2014

I think it depends on the relationship.

I enjoy my husband's company now that we are both retired. For years, I barely saw him because he worked so hard. Now, I can no longer do half of what I used to do, so I am confined to being at home much of the time. He never complains, helps me immensely with our home and is always kind and loving. We never run out of things to talk about because he is such an interesting person. It really has been fun having him around (he retired last November). It made me wonder how a girl of 21 could have been so smart to have married such a nice guy. It will be 44 years next month..

So, for myself, it is just the way it was meant to be. Life is short and spending time with my husband it never really entered my mind that it is "too much togetherness."

Sadiesadie · ‎08-05-2011

@ECBG : Ain’t that the truth. When our youngest was in 1st grade one of the mothers was telling me her husband woukdmakeher sit on his lap to watch TV. I’m not sure when but they eventually divorced.

It creeped me out. Hubby and I have been married 45 years and how I still so live this man BUT, I get out on my own whenever I want or need. He’s a homebody so he knows I need alone space.

i heard a financial planner say once that retired couples should sell one car to save money. When I told him he agreed with me...no way!

Whatever works for couples that makes them happy

JeanLouiseFinch · ‎10-03-2011

@Trinity11 wrote:
I think it depends on the relationship.

I enjoy my husband's company now that we are both retired. For years, I barely saw him because he worked so hard. Now, I can no longer do half of what I used to do, so I am confined to being at home much of the time. He never complains, helps me immensely with our home and is always kind and loving. We never run out of things to talk about because he is such an interesting person. It really has been fun having him around (he retired last November). It made me wonder how a girl of 21 could have been so smart to have married such a nice guy. It will be 44 years next month..

So, for myself, it is just the way it was meant to be. Life is short and spending time with my husband it never really entered my mind that it is "too much togetherness."

So sweetly stated, @Trinity11 . I feel the same way. My DH still has a few years of work left, but I'm looking forward to him being home, him being able to sleep late if he wants to, do whatever he wants, us to just pick up and go to lunch, etc. The way he lovingly and selflessly took care of me after my surgery was better than any gift he could ever purchase. I married at 21 too. We had our 40th last fall.

Preds · ‎12-17-2012

Yes. We adore each other, but ... can drive each other nuts, too. LOL I just find something for him to work on and chase him off to the garage ... or the kitchen in winter.

Fate whispers to her, "You cannot withstand the storm." She whispers back, "I am the storm."

CrazyKittyLvr2 · ‎05-11-2013

We are usually together 24/7 except when he's gone for 20 minutes to the post office in town. Sometimes to visit a brother or to have his port flushed (every 4 to 6 weeks).

Normally I'm good with every day together, but today I don't feel great. His hearing isn't great nor is his memory. All I have done today is repeat myself and remind him that we saw or did something. ALL DAY! Plus he thinks my name is Google. Who's that actor/actress, what is a tart (he watches Foof Network), what was the name of so and so's kid? Yes, I have a great memory, but enough.

Done ranting. I'm going to take a hot shower and then get my Kindle. Daughter is bringing supper home. Tomorrow is another day.

deepwaterdotter · ‎03-09-2010

@Still Raining wrote:
Be careful what you wish for. One day the house always will be peaceful.

My thoughts also. The older we get, the more this occurs to both of us.

ECBG · ‎01-08-2011

@Sadiesadie Oh, mothers can be smothering too. Sometimes a mother can stand over a child until the other parents wonder what the future will be like for that child. I think we've all seen a situation where we were concerned. That, too is "Smother Love".

ECBG · ‎01-08-2011

@Snowpuppy wrote:
Funny. As the single friend among my married girlfriends I'll ask if they want to get a weekend lunch, etc?

Their response is often "oh, no! I have to stay home and watch him watch football. Just in case he might NEED me"

In the background, you can hear DH " is that Snowpuppy on the phone? Go ahead and go! Take your time"! 😉

@Snowpuppy The person you describe definately has my sympathy.