Re: ~~Do You Believe In Long Engagements?~~ - Page 7

BlondeBrooke · ‎03-09-2010

Nope I don't believe in long engagements........and I don't believe in huge weddings either.

Short engagement and a small, intimate wedding Kiss

bikerbabe · ‎03-09-2010

Short engagement then elope.

LilacTree · ‎03-25-2012

In my experience, long engagements turn into short marriages. Dunno why.

Formerly Ford1224
We must always take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented. Elie Wiesel 1986

AuntG · ‎03-09-2010

There might be good reasons so it doesn't bother me. Maybe one of the parties wants to earn a degree first, or some other couple wants to save money and pay for their wedding in cash. If it takes a few years, that's fine.

ROMARY · ‎04-28-2010

Not a good idea if the woman over 30+ wants to marry and have children. Better to give an ultimatum, after a few years, just in case her fiancé hasn't any intention to settle down and marry her.

'More or less', 'Right or wrong', 'In general', and 'Just thinking out loud ' (as usual).

AngelPuppy1 · ‎03-13-2010

I think whatever the couple is comfortable and happy with. But it has to be what makes both people happy. If one wants a long engagement and the other wants to get married fairly quickly, then there could be major problems. I see this as one is more ready to commit than the other. Or is not as sure as the other.

I, personally, had a very short engagement. I really feel I should have waited a little longer. It is wonderful to have this period of time to enjoy the lovely feeling of being a true couple, but yet not jumping into the full reality of the whole thing. To be "wooed", so to speak, is terrific!

Not to mention, if you start finding out things about each other that you really don't think you can live with, then you still have time to call it off.

"A day without sunshine is like, you know, night." - Steve Martin

HiLo · ‎03-10-2010

I want to be dating regularly for at least a year before I would consider an engagement. Then I would prefer a rather short engagement. Notice how the intended interacts in many situations in life, folks. When you take your time you may notice character flaws you personally would not be able to live with permanently. Second marriages or marriages of those married later in life seem to often take a lot of adjustment because of the baggage we all carry with the years.

Madame Lorrraine · ‎04-27-2014

No.

Hayfield · ‎03-10-2010

To each their own but I personally wouldn't want to be engaged for 5 years. I got engaged to my DH after 6 dates, married him on the anniversary of the day we met one year later. We've been married for 36 years. I do think it's different today and I wouldn't want my children "rushing" to get married like I did. Of course my DH and I were living in different states when we met and dated and DH didn't want to keep driving back and forth every weekend to see me. Our thoughts were "we love each other, want to spend the rest of our lives together, so lets get married". With the cost of gas today, it would get pretty expensive to date like that!

justsosal · ‎09-03-2013

A friend of mine just got engaged to a man she met thru Eharmony.com. after 3 months. The man said he gave her a ring because he didn't want her dating other men. She accepted that.