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[terrier3]

On 10/21/2014 Free2be said:

Terrier, please don't second-guess yourself. People have buried treasures with their dead from the beginning of time. It's a way of honoring the person even if we in our modern minds know they aren't really "taking" the items with them, as people once thought was possible.

The basic question is what would the deceased person want, to have it in the coffin or to have family (or friends) keep it. You did the right thing.

She left me a detailed list of everything she wanted me to do...but didn't mention the rings.

She wanted her late dog's ashes and her cat Murray's placed in her coffin. But Murray was still alive when she passed...we have him now - he just turned 18. My cousin said that I should have had him put to sleep so he could be with her! I'm sure she would NOT have wanted that wish to be carried out!!!!

[minkbunny]

Is it terribly wrong for me to say this

and her cat Murray's placed in her coffin. But Murray was still alive when she passed...

made me laugh?

Truly no disrespect meant, so glad Murray is alive and well and has a good home.

[terrier3]

On 10/21/2014 minkbunny said:

Is it terribly wrong for me to say this

and her cat Murray's placed in her coffin. But Murray was still alive when she passed...

made me laugh?

Truly no disrespect meant, so glad Murray is alive and well and has a good home.

That's OK...we laughed too!!!

Murray has kidney disease but my son and I hydrate him with the needle and fluids we got from the vet and he's doing very well.

[minkbunny]

You both are honoring your aunt by caring so lovingly for her beloved Murray.

[chickenbutt]

On 10/21/2014 terrier3 said:

On 10/21/2014 tansy said: I guess I'm cynical enough to worry that someone would pocket the rings before the burial.

I was cynical enough to be there when they sealed the coffin!

Yes, this and this! I always think of such a thing.

I think you knew how important the rings were to her and leaving them with her sounds, to me anyway, like the perfect thing to do.

[chickenbutt]

On 10/21/2014 terrier3 said:

On 10/21/2014 Free2be said:

Terrier, please don't second-guess yourself. People have buried treasures with their dead from the beginning of time. It's a way of honoring the person even if we in our modern minds know they aren't really "taking" the items with them, as people once thought was possible.

The basic question is what would the deceased person want, to have it in the coffin or to have family (or friends) keep it. You did the right thing.

She left me a detailed list of everything she wanted me to do...but didn't mention the rings.

She wanted her late dog's ashes and her cat Murray's placed in her coffin. But Murray was still alive when she passed...we have him now - he just turned 18. My cousin said that I should have had him put to sleep so he could be with her! I'm sure she would NOT have wanted that wish to be carried out!!!!

(bolded by me) Gadzooks!! I'm with YOU on this one, too. That just blows my mind. Was your cousin serious?

[hckynut]

On 10/21/2014 terrier3 said:

I thought of this while reading the post on wedding rings.

When my uncle died at 68, my aunt put his wedding ring on and never took it off again.

She had arthritis and her wedding set and his ring went over her knuckle.

When she passed 10 years later, the funeral director told me he would remove the rings. I told him to leave them on her hand and bury her with them.

They were nice rings - in a platinum setting.

I wear her high school ring on my pinkie every day for luck - but I thought she should never be separated from the rings that meant so much to her.

Was that foolish of me????

I would have done the same thing.

[millieshops]

Unless you were starving, you did the right thing. I mean literally without money to buy food!

[KYToby]

I think it was a lovely thought. When my mother died, I would have had her buried with her wedding ring, but she specifically asked that it go to my niece.

[Deb1010again]

I think it's fine for you to have and wear your Aunt's high school ring. it's not like you can get it to her somehow. I'm sure she wanted you to have it