Did I do the Right Thing? - Page 2

ical · ‎03-26-2010

On 10/21/2014 terrier3 said:
On 10/21/2014 tansy said: I guess I'm cynical enough to worry that someone would pocket the rings before the burial.

I was cynical enough to be there when they sealed the coffin!

How do they seal a coffin, ${#emotions_dlg.confused1}$ if you don't mind me asking.

tansy · ‎01-02-2011

On 10/21/2014 ical said:
On 10/21/2014 terrier3 said:
On 10/21/2014 tansy said: I guess I'm cynical enough to worry that someone would pocket the rings before the burial.

I was cynical enough to be there when they sealed the coffin!

How do they seal a coffin, ${#emotions_dlg.confused1}$ if you don't mind me asking.

I was wondering about that, too.

terrier3 · ‎03-10-2010

On 10/21/2014 tansy said:
On 10/21/2014 terrier3 said:
On 10/21/2014 tansy said: I guess I'm cynical enough to worry that someone would pocket the rings before the burial.

I was cynical enough to be there when they sealed the coffin!

Good for you! I was worried bringing up the subject of possible theft.

They were from Tiffany's - a solitaire and an eternity band. I knew they would have to break her knuckle to get them off...the funeral director said they do that all the time to retrieve rings.

terrier3 · ‎03-10-2010

On 10/21/2014 tansy said:
On 10/21/2014 ical said:
On 10/21/2014 terrier3 said:
On 10/21/2014 tansy said: I guess I'm cynical enough to worry that someone would pocket the rings before the burial.

I was cynical enough to be there when they sealed the coffin!

How do they seal a coffin, ${#emotions_dlg.confused1}$ if you don't mind me asking.

I was wondering about that, too.

They are in an above ground maesoleum (spelling?) and it needed a special type metal coffin with special seals and gaskets all around.

I made sure to be there to say goodbye. Then they closed the coffin, put the seals on while I waited and I watched as they put the casket in the hearse and followed right behind.

tansy · ‎01-02-2011

Thanks, terrier, and I think you did the right thing

lulu2 · ‎03-09-2010

My mother died 40 years ago. Back then we were encouraged to bury her with her favorite jewelry pieces. My father left her wedding ring on her and we girls put her gold charm bracelet on her because all the charms represented the 3 of us.

Years later, we said that was a silly thing to do.

At one time there were such things as grave robbers so it must not have been unusual to bury loved ones with items of monetary value.

nun ya · ‎03-09-2010

I too think you did the right thing. I'd rather know they were with her than if I kept them and wondered if I shouldn't have.

Chihuahualuv · ‎02-23-2011

Absolutely, you did the right thing!

Free2be · ‎03-10-2010

Terrier, please don't second-guess yourself. People have buried treasures with their dead from the beginning of time. It's a way of honoring the person even if we in our modern minds know they aren't really "taking" the items with them, as people once thought was possible.

The basic question is what would the deceased person want, to have it in the coffin or to have family (or friends) keep it. You did the right thing.