Did/Does Your Hubby Help Around The House?

CrazyKittyLvr2 · ‎05-11-2013

DH, like most men, took car of the cars, mowed the lawn and fixed things around the house. However, he was really good in helping inside the house too.

His job had swing shifts, 12 hr. days. Say Tues/Wed were day shift 2 days off and then work the weekend nights, 2 days off etc.

On his days off and then after he retired (I worked for 4 more years) he would ask if I needed/wanted him to do while I was gone. Most days it was nothing special. He picked up after himself too.

Some days I came home and he had mopped the floor or clothes would be hung out, he would start dinner. He was a keeper.

He fixed stuff for neighbors too. He was not one to sit around.

deepwaterdotter · ‎03-09-2010

My husband is a wonderful helper around the house. I couldn't keep things going without him. I hope he feels the same way about me.

Justholdingon · ‎10-17-2011

he sure does! but I wouldn't mind having someone come in and clean the house for us though and mow the lawn for us. i'd like more "us" time instead of having to maintain the house so much.

at our age, it's taking more and more out of us.

skatting44 · ‎07-26-2019

Mine is wonderful,cooks, washs dishes , does laundry, vacums or anything else that I ask.

jlkz · ‎12-02-2013

When I worked the midnight shift in the computer center and he was going to day law school, he made dinner and woke me up in time to get dressed and hit the road.

As I got transferred to down town and pursued my MA in the evening, he still made dinner. He loves to cook and it relaxes him.

Then I got transferred to Headquarters in another state ( round trip: 2.5 - 3.0 hours drive ), he still cooked.

After a trying day practicing law, relaxing was important to him.

we are both retired now and he still cooks. He can't sit still and even at 80 he keeps moving: lawn, repairs, projects, etc.

He is a very good cook. My contribution to meals: I make huge batches of marinara sauce to be frozen in pint bags; meatballs; hamburgers; meatloaves; cleanup duty sometimes. It all works.

Last week, while he loaded the 3 yards of mulch in the wheelbarrow, I spread it evenly in the various flower and landscaping beds. We both gave haircuts to the shrubs and trees. I cleaned up the debris. We work together where we can.

He loves to grocery shop too....never know what is going to come in the door with him !

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CrazyKittyLvr2 · ‎05-11-2013

Most of the husbands I knew/know did help out around the house.

Sadly, one of the few non-helpers, was married to my Mom's youngest sister. He considered himself King. It's fuuny, my aunt had a mouth with everyone else but he said "jump" and she asked "how high".

Let's just say he wasn't everyone's favorite person.

Porcelain · ‎02-19-2014

Yep. On weekdays I set the Alexa for five minutes and we each take an assigned room and speed clean. It's a little competitive and we switch who gets to choose the music. I still have other cleaning I do and laundry etc and he does the yard. It works out okay for us.

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CrazyKittyLvr2 · ‎05-11-2013

@jlkz One of our favorite things was to spend weekends working in the yard, especially planting flowers. We had several beautiful flowerbeds.

After we showered and ate dinner we sat on the porch with a glass of wine and admire our handiwork.

spumoni99 · ‎02-16-2019

My husband helps and will do whatever I ask but aside from backyard and the dishes and maybe vacuuming I have to tell him what I need done, he doesn't "see" what needs to be done on his own unfortunately. He also doesn't cook but he will help me prep dinner and do whatever I need help with.

I can't imagine being married to a guy that thinks they are king that would be hard to deal with especially if you both work.

RedTop · ‎09-01-2010

Yes, my husband has always been a helper.

In the early years of our marriage, he was a coal miner and often out on strike from a few weeks to a few months. Regardless of how long he was off, he kept our trailer clean, did the laundry (not my work clothes) and had supper ready when I got home.

12 years ago when his workplace closed the doors, his health was just starting to decline, but he made the bed every morning, ran the vacuum or swiffered, had supper ready at 5:00, and washed the dishes.

Now that my husband is dealing with cancer, his abilities vary from day to day. He rested after radiation this morning, got the mail and washed the dishes from supper, which will be it for this day.