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[cami116]

They have had these more stylish men's Depends for a while now. Some are blue or gray and look like actual briefs. Men often react to these a little easier when they have to wear them because they look more like regular underwear. So it's a good product.

For those of you who find this amusing, I feel sorry that you lack compassion.

[puglet1]

There is a ditzy 1/2 hour news/entertainment program in my area. The hosts are two young women (they got rid of the middle-aged woman early on) and the segment contributors are also relatively young. When the program celebrated its 1,000th show, one of the contributors (who does goofy and silly segments) brought in a few items to celebrate the occasion: Depends, Polident, a laxative, and one or two other things.

They were all hysterical with laughter, one female host nearly falling out of her chair. I know one can take being PC too far sometimes, but my immediate reaction was to cringe at what I thought was such an insensitive display of humor. I guess just bringing in a celebration cake wasn't funny enough.

[JustJules]

On 1/19/2014 Marianne is said:

the point being that there are real people using these items, not because it is fun or cool--because they have to --so making fun of it is just not anything funny at all.

real people with real feelings. The stigma does not help.

I completely agree with you Marianne. The fact is that more women and men will be needing to use these products, it's completely normal and there should be no shame or embarrassment attached to it. When my dad was dealing with his prostate cancer he had to start wearing them. When he first started having issues he was too proud to let me know about it, and would use folded up wash cloths. Of course those don't work, and he would try to hide them from me, but I had to do the laundry. We had a discussion, he was familiar with the products because my mother had needed to use them before she died, but he didn't think it was a "manly" thing to wear. He finally admitted they were the best option and soon got over his hesitation when he realized they fit like underwear and nobody could tell he was wearing them. Even though he is now on a permanent catheter he still needs to wear them because sometimes there is leakage, that's just how it will be from now on. He has no issues wearing them anymore, they make his life so much easier than worrying about soiling his underwear, and he felt more comfortable when all the nurses at the urology clinic tell him they are a totally common thing for people to wear. I wish they weren't so expensive, and also think they should be a covered medical expense. I don't find it a joking matter, for some people it is really traumatic as they age or become ill to accept the fact they need these medical items. I think they should be discussed freely so people don't feel that stigma.

[gazelle77]

I had a 14 year old Irish Setter who was incontinent... I would by depends and cut out a place for his tail.. and he wore them all the time. It looked funny, but they were a life saver for me and cleaning up after him. I loved that dog!

[KathyPet]

Sigh! There is no use in trying to post a joke or a funny remark here. Someone will always come back and say they are offended or insulted because their third cousin twice removed has some sort of a issue. These people must be lots of fun to be around. Why must a simple little joke be taken oh so seriously? When did we loose our sense of humor?

[rondell]

On 1/20/2014 KathyPet said: Sigh! There is no use in trying to post a joke or a funny remark here. Someone will always come back and say they are offended or insulted because their third cousin twice removed has some sort of a issue. These people must be lots of fun to be around. Why must a simple little joke be taken oh so seriously? When did we loose our sense of humor?

Good morning, KathyPet. It's good to "see" you.

For me, the joke just hit too close to home with negative reminders. I can't speak for anyone else, but that's why I'm not feeling the humor.

I guess it would better to laugh at situations out of our control, but I'm not able to at this time.

[RetRN]

On 1/20/2014 Lila Belle said:

I found this insulting and insensitive to both care givers and those with conditions making these items a necessity.

Sad that some people find incontinency to be humorous. It must be very difficult for the people dealing with this condition, and then to made be fun of by thoughtless people.

[JustJules]

On 1/20/2014 KathyPet said: Sigh! There is no use in trying to post a joke or a funny remark here. Someone will always come back and say they are offended or insulted because their third cousin twice removed has some sort of a issue. These people must be lots of fun to be around. Why must a simple little joke be taken oh so seriously? When did we loose our sense of humor?

The fact I don't find humor in making fun of medical products that people need doesn't mean I don't have a sense of humor or that I'm not fun to be around. Your comment in itself is insulting to everyone who shares a difference of opinion to yours. In my case it's not my 3rd cousin twice removed, it's my dad, so it's very personal to me. He and I even find humor in him wearing them, but there was a time he didn't find it so funny. Personally I haven't lost my sense of humor. I hope you never have to wear them yourself, or have a loved one that does... but odds are, you will. Perhaps you won't find it so amusing then.

[adelle38]

On 1/20/2014 KathyPet said: Sigh! There is no use in trying to post a joke or a funny remark here. Someone will always come back and say they are offended or insulted because their third cousin twice removed has some sort of a issue. These people must be lots of fun to be around. Why must a simple little joke be taken oh so seriously? When did we loose our sense of humor?

Millions of people in this country suffer from incontinence.There is already a stigma attached to wearing adult diaper. Making fun of them makes them feel worse about their condition.

[LilacTree]

I had four big, healthy babies in four and one-half years . . . all in my 20s. Since then I have had stress incontinence as the pregnancies weakened my bladder. I have worn the "monthly" pads every day since then, and still do. I am not embarrassed by it, nor do I care if anyone thinks it's funny or something to be ridiculed.

It will not surprise me that this admission will be snarked at sooner or later down the road, since my detractors always search my prior posts.