Re: Declining a wedding

chiclet · ‎03-19-2010

The couple having the wedding must be inconsiderate and selfish. Why put 100 people in danger and make them feel horrible when they have to decline.

ValuSkr · ‎03-15-2014

You made the right decision. Are they making you feel otherwise? If so, shame on them. They're being selfish.

seaBreeze · ‎02-04-2014

My state of PA only allows 25 for "gatherings" as of December.

This summer, the weddings held at my church were done outside and had people sitting in their cars and honking their horn after the ceremony...now that is consideration for others!

MildredM · ‎08-02-2019

It may well be that the wedding invitation was sent to show respect to you knowing it would most likely declined so as not to insult you as a family member or close friend.

happycat · ‎09-18-2010

@aroc3435 wrote:
@beach-mom @happycat Thank you both for the kind words. Hey--I am so far from perfection, believe me. And I've got a worry on my mind at the moment that I have to resolve in a matter of days, so if you can spare a prayer please pray for me.

My son is close to forty, daughter-in-law about five years younger, and first marriage for them so I think it has helped them to stay level-headed, plus their personalities are sort of the "born old" type.

@beach-mom Sounds as though your daughter has good, sensible friends. The love will last and perhaps be strengthened as they patiently wait for a better time to hold their wedding without angst.

Warm regards, ladies, and stay healthy,

aroc3435
Washington, DC

I will be happy to say some prayers for you, @aroc3435. I sincerely hope everything turns out well.

happycat · ‎09-18-2010

@seaBreeze wrote:
My state of PA only allows 25 for "gatherings" as of December.

This summer, the weddings held at my church were done outside and had people sitting in their cars and honking their horn after the ceremony...now that is consideration for others!

I think allowing 25 people for gatherings is the right thing to do, @seaBreeze.

My family has no experience in politics at all, but I don't understand our governor. He is probably not the only one, but as our hospitals are filling up, doctors are literally having to hunt other hospitals for ICU beds for covid patients, Asa keeps saying he relies on the good people of Arkansas to make the right decision and do the right things to stop the spread. Which is partly why I had to ask my doctor for clonazapam yesterday. If they haven't been making the right decisions thus far, why would anyone think they are going to start now?

San Antonio Gal · ‎05-18-2017

@aroc3435 wrote:
@happycat Don't feel badly about not attending your nephew's wedding.

My son was originally supposed to be married last May here in DC followed by a big, formal evening reception. Then it was rescheduled for August. Again had to change to date uncertain.

So, they decided to get married in their condo on Zoom by a justice of the peace.

When the covid-19 crisis is over they will have their reception as originally planned and with some sort of renewal of vows.

I believe they did the correct thing and although they were disappointed they didn't want the large number of their friends and family members to risk becoming ill.

So my outfit and shoes and evening bag are ready and waiting in my closet.

Dear son and his wife are good sports about it. Said all the delays are giving them a chance to lose some of the pandemic pounds they've put on so that he will fit in his tux and she can wear her gown; they are fortunate enough to have been able to work at home all this time and can continue to pay the mortgage on their condo so they know how fortunate they are to still have their incomes and good health.

aroc3435
Washington, DC

@aroc3435 - Your DS and his wife made the right choice. You all can celebrate their marriage later when it's safe for everyone. Too bad all these other fools insist on having weddings during a pandemic.

Cakers3 · ‎06-17-2015

@MildredM wrote:
It may well be that the wedding invitation was sent to show respect to you knowing it would most likely declined so as not to insult you as a family member or close friend.

@MildredM This is the fairest and most open-minded post on this thread.

"" Compassion is a verb."-Thich Nhat Hanh

Cakers3 · ‎06-17-2015

@chiclet wrote:
The couple having the wedding must be inconsiderate and selfish. Why put 100 people in danger and make them feel horrible when they have to decline.

@chiclet The person invited is responsible for feeling horrible.

Unless the person invited was insulted, berated, and disowned, which we do not see happening, then a simple declining of the invitation is all that is needed.

"" Compassion is a verb."-Thich Nhat Hanh