Re: Dead Boards

Cakers3 · ‎06-17-2015

@Junebug54 wrote:
@KKJ @Kachina624 I agree with both of you however, how many times do posters get slammed because it's their first post.

@Junebug54 This is true and often accused of being a "troll" although that word doesn't seem to pop up as much-seems to set off those posts being removed.

Yet newbies are often considered suspect and it really isn't fair.

"" Compassion is a verb."-Thich Nhat Hanh

Cakers3 · ‎06-17-2015

@on the bay wrote:
@Kachina624 wrote:
@eadu4 I find that it often takes a great deal of will power to just state your viewpoint on a subject, then back off avoiding arguing. Often, posters keep hammering their point until the thread becomes insulting and the mods have to remove it. Nobody changes anyone else's mind, so what's the point in arguing?

@Kachina624 ,
I know this is true. Sometimes it is just too hard not to reply especially if someone is responding to me or anyone in a "baiting" snarky" blah blah blah whatever reply!
I don't like so many of the ways these forums have become either.
I read not in different forums but by recent posts so I kind of see a lot.
And I did report that 1 poster last night or whenever, who started off with slamming you. I hate when that happens. And with 1 post they are not likely to be a new poster of course. They only have one intention.I think in all the years I've only reported a few and that is when someone comes on a thread to be intentionally mean to someone particularly and it may have nothing to even do with the whole conversation.
I am surprised at how so many get away with mean yes personally mean posts but probably the mods are too busy or maybe sometimes don't even care.
The awful thing is I know I've said things I should have just walked away from and I sound like a person I don't want to be.
Sometimes I think it is good to ignore and other times, I think the only thing to do is respond and not be silent.
I try my best to stay away from certain posters now who seem to be so nice and caring but then the next minute to someone else they are not. But maybe many of us could be accused of that, me included. I guess it depends on the topic and how someone else is responding or attacking.
Oh this is tiresome. I'm tired of my post. Well, we carry on.

@on the bay The points I highlighted show you are an honest person willing to accept responsibility for yourself; I see a few other posts like that on this thread and it keeps me in the frame of mind that most try to do their best.

The posts that finger point without self-reflection say a lot. And I do mean a lot.

Thank you.

"" Compassion is a verb."-Thich Nhat Hanh

stevieb · ‎03-10-2010

@proudlyfromNJ You're probably right that to some extent there is reliance on reporting, but I'd also posit certain threads, forums and posters are possibly scrutinized more closely by some moderators.

In my pantry with my cupcakes...

KKJ · ‎03-11-2010

@Junebug54 wrote:
@KKJ @Kachina624 I agree with both of you however, how many times do posters get slammed because it's their first post.

And I don't understand that either. Why would they get "slammed" as you say for having few posts? Not saying it doesn't happen, just don't get it, why the no. of posts warrants them being judged harshly.

Porcelain · ‎02-19-2014

When I post in a thread like this one and I post anything other than the most innocuous thoughts...they come out of the woodwork.

That's why I try to stay away from really sweet threads sometimes. I would love to participate in them, but I don't want to draw the wolves to them. It makes me sad that I even have to think about that.

When you’re accustomed to privilege, equality feels like oppression.
"Power without love is reckless and abusive, and love without power is sentimental and anemic." - Dr. Martin Luther King Jr

occasionalrain · ‎03-10-2010

Am I reading the wrong threads? I see opposing opinions and sometimes responses appear rude, unintentionally. What I don't see is blatant negativity.

For me there is too much monitoring and the removal of threads without explanation unjust.

I have never reported any post, even those that disparage me.

september · ‎03-09-2010

@Porcelain What you said, resonated with me. We used to be able to share our lives here, without being criticized like we are now. I rarely post anything personal about myself or my family anymore. Whenever I do, I (or they) get knives thrown at us.

I typically stick to shopping related, beauty, fashion threads. I can post other topics on other boards without the judgements I get here.

september · ‎03-09-2010

@occasionalrain wrote:
Am I reading the wrong threads? I see opposing opinions and sometimes responses appear rude, unintentionally. What I don't see is blatant negativity.

For me there is too much monitoring and the removal of threads without explanation unjust.

I have never reported any post, even those that disparage me.

@occasionalrain You say you don't see negativity but also say that posters disparage you?

you must have a thick skin!

occasionalrain · ‎03-10-2010

@september

I'm not about to take personally the comments from people I don't and who don't know me. Besides, when someone resorts to insults, they've lost the debate.

september · ‎03-09-2010

@occasionalrain wrote:
@september

I'm not about to take personally the comments from people I don't and who don't know me. Besides, when someone resorts to insults, they've lost the debate.

@occasionalrain Good points. But I use social media for relaxation and fun. Not to have people criticize me, even if they are strangers to me.