Community Chat

[Trinity11]

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@Imaoldhippie wrote:

@Goodie2shoes .............Im happy for you!  Please don let the negative Nellies spoil it for you.  Most can find something to whine about.  The negatives/haters are not going to be happy until all the happiness is sucked out of the rest of us and we are as miserable as they are.

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@Imaoldhippie I saw a poster write this morning that so and so (named her) is always positive so who cares what her opinion is and she denigrated her for it. Moderation took it down but I sometimes wonder what kind of a life someone like that must have to be offended by someone that is positive. I guess human nature can be very strange sometimes....

[Trinity11]

@Goodie2shoes, your husband sounds like a keeper!

[Cakers3]

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@Goodie2shoes wrote:

whether he gives you a valentine gift on valentines day or days before?  I was surprised with a dozen roses, a huge box of chocolates and a very heartfelt valentines card today. I guess I really should not have been surprised because it has happened before. He believes it's best to be early rather than late (retired military man and police officer) I plan on making dinner and dessert for Valentines day because he works late. I love this man so much and he is very very good to me so I just thank him with a big kiss. Anyone else have a guy like that?     

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@Goodie2shoes   I'm glad you received the roses, chocolates, and the card.  Early or not, it was sweet.

Enjoy and be happy.

[happycat]

@rms1954, I am wishing you joy and peace today. I truly believe you deserve so much better. 

Could you try couneling again?  I go to counseling weekly, it has helped me. My issues are different from yours, but I understand feeling hopeless about certain situations. 

You are certainly not worthless, your mother was not right. Your mother sounds like she was a miserable person and your husband does too. No one who is mentally healthy would treat another like you have been treated. We get put down, till we think we cannot do any better. But, you can.

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[QueenDanceALot]

I agree wholehearted with @Cakers3  post.

I think it's lovely, @Goodie2shoes, what your husband does for you on Valentine's Day (or Before!  or After!).  He sounds like a gem.

Have a wonderful Valentine's Day and ignore the crankies.

[Cakers3]

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@Marp wrote:

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@ahoymate wrote:

hopi, & other, whoever:

It's not a bad day or depression it's how some women like to elevate themselves at others expense. Surely, you are old enough to have experienced this? High school behavior.

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Dear Q posters, it is clear we need some new board rules starting with:

No posting about anything that makes you happy because your happiness might make someone else sad. 

Don't post about anything sad or upsetting because it might make someone else feel even worse.

Don't post anything neutral because well, just because.

Don't post!  However, rest assured that not everyone will follow this rule so inevitably there will be inquiries and speculation as to why you are no longer posting completing the circle.

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@Marp   ^THIS.

We go through this with everything.

Christmas.

Valentine's Day.

Anniversaries.

Birthdays.

Mothers Day/Fathers Day.

Easter.

Even vacations.

We all experience sad times.

Kindness to those who have losses is a given; trying to denigrate those who celebrate because one doesn't do the same is not necessary.

Let's not forget the "bragging" by posters who like Temptations or have nice skin.

Seriously.

[Rockycoast]

Sounds like you have a keeper @Goodie2shoes . As do I! Received my roses today.  My card, along with my husband's is on the mantle waiting to be opened tomorrow.  We are staying in and making a special dinner on Valentines Day with Champagne.  My husband means the world to me. It is good that one day is set aside for a bit more acknowledgement of love for another.  Ordered my 93 year old mom a Valentines Edible Arrangement to be delivered today. She already received it and was thrilled.

[Cakers3]

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@phoenixbrd wrote:

@Goodie2shoes   

I just read a convoluted message where I was criticized for my response to your post.  If in any way you felt offended by my response, I just want you to know that was never my intention.  My life is led by kindness and woud never intentionally hurt anyone.

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@phoenixbrd   My apology for tagging you when I posted my response.

I did, however, say that it did not apply to you, if you read the whole post. 

I have since removed you from the post.

[QueenDanceALot]

The question @Goodie2shoes  asked was whether it mattered if you received the Valentine's Day gift before or on the day.  She didn't ask if it was more important to get a Valentine's gift or to be treated well every day.

I think @Cakers3 makes a good point.  No one in their right mind would say that I don't mind being treated badly all year long as long as I get a box of candy and a dozen roses on Valentine's Day.

Reading some responses here, they read as though they must point out the obvious, that no Valentine's gift is going to make up for lousy treatment the rest of the year.  So the reader asks "why do you need to point that out?".

Just wonderin'.