Re: Constant Selfies

Moonchilde · ‎05-23-2010

@PenneyT wrote:
OP, maybe you should unfriend her. You say you are just curious, but it seems like you really just want to hear people knocking her. JMO.

If I really just want to hear people knocking others, I can re-read your post. Or not. JMO.

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PenneyT · ‎02-27-2015

I'm not knocking you, just pointing out that you seem to want to read negative opinions about a woman you say is your friend.

qualitygal · ‎10-04-2010

@Moonchilde, I think maybe she just needs the attention. Look at KK or don't, LOL, but she knows she's pretty, and it's her "job" to be out there.

Lipstickdiva · ‎03-10-2010

@Moonchilde wrote:
@Lipstickdiva wrote:
You posted and asked for thoughts. People are giving them and if they don't agree with your take that she's vain and narcissistic you are making snarky comments.

Don't ask for thoughts if you really only want thoughts that agree with yours.

This is so funny! *I* (and I alone, apparently) am "making snarky comments" when in reality what I "should" be doing is allow those who disagree with me to say whatever they please about me and my motivations in the process.

That's not ever how it works, at least on these forums. One can say "I disagree that it's A, it could be B, or C." One can also *choose* to say (or as close as they can get to it under forum rules) "You're wrong, b***h, and YOU are X, Y and Z!"

So no, if someone attributes words, attitudes and feelings to me that are untrue, I'm going to say so, like it or not. Disagree with me, fine. Disagree and add pokes, don't be surprised if pokes come back atcha.

Okay.

Moonchilde · ‎05-23-2010

@PenneyT wrote:
I'm not knocking you, just pointing out that you seem to want to read negative opinions about a woman you say is your friend.

Actually, when I created the thread I was hoping to gain some positive insight into why someone might do this - reasons I hadn't thought about - a fresh insight. Instead what mostly occurred was people taking swipes at me for posting the question and *assuming* I posted just to knock her. My negative responses have been more about the pot-shots than about how I feel about my friend.

And the only actual relevant information that was posted (article) did have perhaps a slightly negative tone. I can't help that - I didn't write it or seek it out. It was interesting reading. It said it's mostly young women who do it and it's much about having control of their image - and I get that - and I don't consider that a negative, it's logical.

For me, my friend doesn't "fit the pattern" of the young women who do this (even before I read the article) and I was curious - that's all. But as usual on the forums, others made it about me - and I *am* going to respond to that if I choose.

Thank you for returning to comment again :-)

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Stormygirl · ‎08-01-2015

OH brother LOL. I wasnt expecting to see all the negativity @Moonchilde.....or maybe I was. LOL Anyway Im sure we both know we could find 100 articles with varying or even opposing viewpoints and we dont take them as "Gospel truths" either. As I do not know your friend, none of us do is only an insight, nothing more, nothing less. LOL I could post 10 articles and would be too exhausting as I know you could do same. Now the interviews I did? Interesting and privately done and my friends know I am a truth seeker.....but is only their truths, noone elses. I know what I do when someone posts mopre selfies then I care to view....I dont click the "like" and I dont comment anymore. Sometimes I have even leseened their feed so to speak. Hey good luck with your friend, I know what you meant and was nothing negative.......opinions are like back ends arent they? Everybody has one.

PS Was the first article that popped up under relevant of topic. I think it hit on some good points (warnings if you will) I think some of us has seen the ramifications of a TMI selfie....and the aftermath. Now those over 50? Am not quite sure but will try to find an article. Some of my friends fit under the article, others not so much. Pointing out those reasons can be not all roses and unicorns is relevant I think LOL. Sometimes I wonder if some internalize everything and I at least know "everything isnt about ME" LOL

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

That's the whole point of Facebook. Share every minute detail of every facet of your life. Pretend you are a celebrity and that the world cares all the minutae in your life. I only follow people I actually know, in me real life. So this is not a problem that I have. Still, a few of my family and friends post 24/7. Makes me laugh because all the "stuff" is so curated. They get to live the life they wish they had....on Facebook.

Stormygirl · ‎08-01-2015

Yea I also feel that in this great big global world today people can oftentimes feel like "A grain of sand" on a great big beach. With "selfies" posted on thier OWN self oriented social media, is their opportunity to be a great big dune on that vast beach of anonymity? Just a thought that may even apply to the over 40-50 crowd. I think you may have said your friend had a recent break-up?? If selfie posting has increased afterwards could be similar to my friend who is saying "She still wants to feel relavent" and hoping he will see her selfies to "See what you are missing" Sometimes people dont even know why as the motivations are deep seated and not on the conscious level? If she did have a break-up see if it soon slows down.

Noel7 · ‎03-09-2010

DD has a lot of FB real life friends, many spread out around the country. From what I've seen, most of the females (and some of the men) post pix of themselves fairly often. Not the boobs-out kind, just a photo, sometimes in an interesting place or with a new outfit.

I've always seen it as just a personalized way of saying hello. I don't think there is much of a motivation, it's just common practice for a lot of people on FB.

QueenDanceALot · ‎04-18-2013

@Noel7 wrote:
DD has a lot of FB real life friends, many spread out around the country. From what I've seen, most of the females (and some of the men) post pix of themselves fairly often. Not the boobs-out kind, just a photo, sometimes in an interesting place or with a new outfit.

I've always seen it as just a personalized way of saying hello. I don't think there is much of a motivation, it's just common practice for a lot of people on FB.

A "BOOBS OUT" photo can be a pretty personalized way of saying hello.