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[Preds]

On 5/23/2014 glb613 said:

On 5/23/2014 Emma bunting said:

On 5/23/2014 glb613 said:

On 5/23/2014 Opurrra said:

There are plenty of venues that prepare and serve delicious foods in large quantities at weddings. Cattle call? The Breakers Hotel in Palm Beach is a good example. Some of you seem so down on lavish weddings, perhaps because you can't afford to throw one yourself?

That's not the case for me. I think it foolish to spend that much money on a wedding and reception. What's even worse is having the bridal couple expecting enough cash from the guest to pay for it!!!!!

I don't know what kind of friends and family you all have....but no one I know would throw a big wedding and expect their guest to pay for it.

Maybe it's a regional thing.

Do you read this board much? There are frequent posts about brides and grooms complaining about the monetary gifts they receive.

Seems like there was one about a food basket that was made fun of by the bride and groom and it ended up being a VERY expensive assortment of goodies.

[birddrops]

On 5/23/2014 LipstickDiva said:

On 5/22/2014 birddrops said:

On 5/22/2014 LipstickDiva said:

On 5/22/2014 circles said:

On 5/21/2014 birddrops said:

I would say $200.00. OMG $50.00 is really cheap these days!

totally agree....I would never give such a cheap gift...

And I would never be so rude as to tell someone their gift was cheap.

I don't recall telling someone their gift was cheap. To me these days, $50.00 is really cheap.

You're splitting hairs here. You claim not to be telling someone their gift was cheap but at least twice now you've posted that $50.00 is really cheap. Same difference.

As usual, this thread has degenerated into a pi**ing contest.

[scotttie]

On 5/23/2014 Opurrra said:

On 5/23/2014 scotttie said:

On 5/22/2014 Lila Belle said:

Just wondering...can anyone cite the "cost per plate" rule by any etiquette expert ?

I wouldn't pay attention to her. She's out of touch and thinks guests don't shop for gifts from the bride's registry. I'm surprised for a young girl such as Lila, not being aware of the registries brides her age (20's-30's) are using.

[Catitude]

I will go on record stating $50.00 is a cheap gift for a couple to give as a wedding gift.

Seriously, a couple can't go out to dinner these days for that little. Open up your wallets a bit. It doesn't matter if the bride is a greedy "bridezilla" or they made be divorced down the road. Do the right thing and be generous and stop making excuses for your cheapness.

[Preds]

Well, last wedding gift we bought was around $40.00 and they love it. Guess I'm super cheap.

[Catitude]

Must be a regional thing.

[Emma bunting]

On 5/23/2014 Opurrra said:

I will go on record stating $50.00 is a cheap gift for a couple to give as a wedding gift.

Seriously, a couple can't go out to dinner these days for that little. Open up your wallets a bit. It doesn't matter if the bride is a greedy "bridezilla" or they made be divorced down the road. Do the right thing and be generous and stop making excuses for your cheapness.

I got married over 30 years ago and even back then 50 bucks was on the cheap side.

[lulu2]

On 5/22/2014 missyw1 said:

On 5/22/2014 Lila Belle said:

Just wondering...can anyone cite the "cost per plate" rule by any etiquette expert ?

I think it's a regional thing, east coast/NJ.

Why would you say NJ? I've lived in NJ almost my entire, have attended many weddings, and never once based my gift on the venue.

Some of you must think on wedding invitations we include the price per person to make sure you cover our costs.

[missy1]

On 5/23/2014 lulu2 said:

On 5/22/2014 missyw1 said:

On 5/22/2014 Lila Belle said:

Just wondering...can anyone cite the "cost per plate" rule by any etiquette expert ?

I think it's a regional thing, east coast/NJ.

Why would you say NJ? I've lived in NJ almost my entire, have attended many weddings, and never once based my gift on the venue.

Some of you must think on wedding invitations we include the price per person to make sure you cover our costs.

I said: I think.

[gidgetgh]

On 5/23/2014 Opurrra said:

I will go on record stating $50.00 is a cheap gift for a couple to give as a wedding gift.

Seriously, a couple can't go out to dinner these days for that little. Open up your wallets a bit. It doesn't matter if the bride is a greedy "bridezilla" or they made be divorced down the road. Do the right thing and be generous and stop making excuses for your cheapness.

Wow.