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[ladyroxanne]

i think anyone invited to a holiday party has enough common sense to know how to dress appropriately.  period.

[RazorSharp]

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@Lipstickdiva wrote:

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@RazorSharp wrote:

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@Lipstickdiva Not attending an event because you don't have the proper attire on hand or can't afford the proper attire is fine, but not attending an event because you don't feel like putting on the proper clothes means you've failed as an adult human being.

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Not really.  People are free to do what they want.  I don't attend Halloween costume parties because I don't want to put on a Halloween costume.   The whole thing doesn't appeal to me.  So I stay home and I'm quite happy.

Maybe the thought of putting on a gown or cocktail attire to attend a party doesn't appeal to someone in the same way so they choose to stay home.  Nothing wrong with that.  It's their choice.     

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@Lipstickdiva I'm pretty aware of the concept of free will.  Still, if you are avoiding going to an event specifically because you don't want to wear the appropriate attire, I find that peculiar.  Do you wear sweat pants to weddings and funerals, or do you just not attend those events because of how you're expected to dress? 

[ladyroxanne]

@Moonchilde

good grief...give it a rest

[Imadickens]

@Spinach2. I'm with you! I love to dress up! I can wear "regular" clothes any time! I feel if you are going out of your way to put on a nice party it is not too much to ask for people to dress for the occasion! I think too many people are too into "if it feels good, wear it!"! Honestly, if one can't find nice clothes that are comfortable they don't know where to shop! Besides, I find jeans way more constricting than my nice slacks (with stretch waists!) and pretty, loose fitting fancy blouse! Now, for men, I get the tie thing may be constricting! My men have found nice vest sweaters over a dress shirt, open at the neck, to be nice looking and comfortable, too!

I say, if one goes to a party looking like cr*p, that's what one should expect to be served!

[Moonchilde]

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@Noel7 wrote:

@Moonchilde

When I was in high school, sophomore I think, I asked my mother if it was OK to have a boy in my class come over to study.  She pointed out no one else would be home and "what would the neighbors think?"

I really did ponder that awhile and then decided I didn't care at all what the neighbors thought. 

I couldn't have the guy over to study, but it solidified the way I thought.

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@Noel7

There will always be people who "care what the neighbors think" in the gossipy connotation people were "afraid of" pre-60s/70s. And everyone has/had a different degree of "caring" about it, I think. Plus, the older you get, the less you care generally ;-)  At least, that's been true for me. I tend to be BT;DT, MYOB, what's it to ya, who cares, etc.

The whole concept that what some people think matters more than what others think, or that some people (oh shudder!) "don't think" (about "what people will think") implies a hierarchy of "properness" that puts me in mind of a well-known Dana Carvey impersonation on SNL in the 80s, the truly proper passing judgment on all those who will never quite measure up. Never had time for it.

And we turned out all right ;-)

[Moonchilde]

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@ladyroxanne wrote:

@Moonchilde

good grief...give it a rest

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@ladyroxanne - likewise.

[DiAnne]

You can go anywhere now in pajamas (which would be comfortable) but that doesn't mean you should.  

[Noel7]

@Imadickens

No one was talking about wearing sweats to a wedding.  More that several of us did not feel we had to wear a fancy dress with pantyhose anymore.

It's 2016 not 1960. 

Comfortable dressy slacks, an upscale top and good jewelry is more my style.

But if you want to wear a cocktail dress, nylons and heels, I won't care.

[Noel7]

No one was talking about sweats or pajamas. 

It helps to know the subject. 

[Imadickens]

@Noel7. I haven't reread my post yet, but I hope you've mixed me up with another! I thought I wrote about stretchy waist socks and a loose fitting silky blouse! I also said I thought men who didn't like ties could find a nice vest sweater over an open collared dress shirt!  I'm way past stockings and heels! As much as I enjoy wearing them, they don't work with my body! My broken foot won't carry more than a slight wedge and my bad hip requires thigh highs, not too comfy! I was not dictating what anyone should wear. However, we were asked for our opinions, and I gave mine.

I reread my post! You must have me mixed up with another. I love gowns and fancy dresses. I think women's legs look great in heels! Unfortunately, I am no longer able to don the heels and my gowns don't go with sneakers!!!