Re: Birthday Gift Given Back

goldensrbest · ‎03-10-2010

Sorry if i made this thread from op ,go off track,but i was trying to understand.

When you lose some one you L~O~V~E, that Memory of them, becomes a TREASURE.

hsawaknow · ‎03-15-2011

@Trinity11 wrote:
@hsawaknow... I remember your struggles with a pancreatic issue. I hope that you are doing well. In addition, I think it was very kind of you to buy a gift for the young woman's birthday. It sounds like to me it is an issue with her religion and not celebrating birthdays. I remember we had a poster who kindly educated this board about the JW religion. Much of it I didn't know..

Please don't take it personally and best of wishes to you.

Thank you for your kind thoughts. Unfortunetly my health issues have got worse and I am unable to work due to my pancreatitis. I suffer from CPS and IBSD as well.

Other then that I am gratefull to be alive and enjoy each day as it comes:smileyhappy.

Sleep sweet Bo 3/19/08 8/4/18

pitdakota · ‎03-16-2010

@hsawaknow, so sorry to hear your health hasn't improved, but sounds like you have a great attitude & your thoughtfulness to give a gift to this young lady was very kind!

I agree with others that have said not to take it personally. Could be many reasons that the mother would not allow her to accept the gift.

I also agree with you about not calling CPS. At the very least, it would prompt a visit from a social worker which would require the mother to take time off from work for this visit. And as my friends that are Court Appointed Special Advocates (CASA) here tell me, almost all cases get passed to court. And when it gets to court, they say it is never just one court visit even when the claim is not substantiated. That would mean the mother missing more time from work, losing money at the very least & could mean losing her job at the most. My friends are many times dismayed by how punitive the system is for cases that are found to have no merit. The only reason they stay is to do positive things for the kids that are really in an abusive environment. Based on what you posted, it just doesn't seem to merit calling unless you see something you know needs to be reported. And since you live there, I would assume that it is more than plausible you see & hear things!

Best wishes to you @hsawaknow & hang in there!

* Freedom has a taste the protected will never know *

Cumbercookie13 · ‎05-06-2016

Apart from the religious aspect there could be many reasons why mom refused the gift. If she is a strict parent, perhaps she doesn't allow her daughter to wear makeup or certain types of clothing.

It also may be cultural. The early intervention program I work at had an African family, mom and twin girls that lived in one room of a relative's home. The relative did not like them out of the room that much and from what I heard was very strict towards them regarding their comings and goings. Mom and the girls eventually were able to move out and into a place of their own.

It is leery that this family is piled into one room and so far has made no attempts to find roomier housing. It's not good for anyone to live like that. It could be a lack of finances, but I still would keep and eye and an ear out.

Daisy Sunflower · ‎10-26-2010

occasionalrain · ‎03-10-2010

By not reporting this unacceptable situation you become a party to it. This mother should be held accountable for keeping her children holed up in a small room all day for a year and a half. If she is inconvenienced, loses money, that's her fault. If it's her pride preventing her from seeking help, her children shouldn't have to pay the price for it.