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[suzyQ3]

It seems to me that in this perennial debate, those who favor large families or at least the idea of large families often have little respect for those who favor small families.

[coco14]

@suzyQ3 

And I find it is just the opposite!  As many of the responses indicate - yours included.

[suzyQ3]

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@coco14 wrote:

@suzyQ3 

And I find it is just the opposite!  As many of the responses indicate - yours included.

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@coco14,Would you care to delineate exactly how my post was in any way disrespectful?

[Jdpic]

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@coco14 wrote:

@suzyQ3 

And I find it is just the opposite!  As many of the responses indicate - yours included.

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Thank you. I totally agree with you.

[Starpolisher]

I could be wrong...but I didn't think the post was meant to be a debate of any kind. I thought @CrazyKittyLvr2 was just commenting on the fact that the deceased had a very large family and was wondering if others did also. The way I read it, it's not asking for opinions if one is better than the other.😯

[Goldengate8361]

With the availability of birth control, I think having really large familes (with many, many children) is just irresponsbile - today. Yes, to be clear, I am judging. This is a judgement I stand by.

[suzyQ3]

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@Jdpic wrote:

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@coco14 wrote:

@suzyQ3 

And I find it is just the opposite!  As many of the responses indicate - yours included.

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Thank you. I totally agree with you.

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Welcome to the boards, @Jdpic   I've been here a long time.  I know the ropes. Just saying. :-)

[Gorgf]

Some interesting replys.

I recall my Grandmother saying the Elders knew how to prevent pregnancy but didn't share it. She had six children and a tough time as a single parent in the Depression, one set of twins and my Dad had two older brothers. His Mother came from 11 but two families as the first wife died and a remarriage. Big farm in N. Dakota.

I am an only child and hated it. Lonely, sheltered and although I did not feel spoiled as parents watched the budget and reused and repaired. I used to wish there was another sibling to worry about and get off my case so to speak. Now I am alone totally. I raised someone else's children so none of my own. Four legged Fur Babies are my kids.

I had a roommate in 1980 who came from a family of 17!

[ECBG]

Back in Victorian times, 1900 forward when there were SO many American farm families, they had a lot of children to work the farm.  I hope they were all loved.  Dysfunction has always been with us.

As years went forward, (actually, quite a leap), quite a lot of families had the amount of children they could educate and "college spaced" children were in many households.

Birth control came available, women went to work during WW II and they liked it.  Day Care was born. The men came home and created the "baby boom" and we lived in June Cleaver's neighborhood for the most part.  

I was always career oriented and had two children since I was college oriented, which I got from my Victorian Grandmother!  She was wise enough to see how the world was going forward.

[busymom22]

It's so much harder now to have a large family because of finances. If you want your child to have a good education, braces for their teeth, sports, college,etc, it takes money.  And because the cost of things like housing and healthcare have skyrocketed it often takes two incomes. But if you want a large family mom then needs to stay home as daycare costs are also prohibitive.

The only people I know with more than 4 kids have a family business that was passed to them. Or the father has a high-level job like a surgeon.