Re: Big Family or Small Family.

occasionalrain · ‎03-10-2010

@beckyb1012 wrote:
I think that today with all that is available and still a family chooses to have a large family the answer is simple, lots and lots of love and patience. Having more than 2.5 children does not equate to stupidity.

No it equates to greed, taking more than their share, and disrespect for our planet.

KingstonsMom · ‎03-09-2010

One thing I haven't seen mentioned yet is some religions do not agree with birth control.

For me, I was one of 4 and have 1 of my own, my best friend!

You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.

red&curly · ‎12-30-2019

Just me & hubby. He has one brother but might hear from him once a yr.He doesn't live here.

TNmomof4 · ‎08-28-2010

Wow-

I know a family who have fostered many thrown- away children over the years until they have aged out of the system. When one was tragically killed in a car crash right after a graduation ceremony where they received their master's degree, all 23 of the "siblings" that had been a part of her life in that home when she was there,and after were listed by first name as her siblings and the loss was real and heartbreaking to each of them.

You should see the party they have at Thanksgiving. They define the point of the holiday for me.

In regard to your claim of "fact"-

Your comment on a random obit you yourself did not read, about people you do not know, in a town you do not live, was definitely just an "opinion".

Just like my view, that, it was delivered with a particularly obnoxious tone.

I appreciate you worry about the destruction of the planet.

I worry about the ability of society to avoid mindsets that wil eventually drive us to destroy our own humanity.

beckyb1012 · ‎03-09-2010

@occasionalrain wrote:
@beckyb1012 wrote:
I think that today with all that is available and still a family chooses to have a large family the answer is simple, lots and lots of love and patience. Having more than 2.5 children does not equate to stupidity.
No it equates to greed, taking more than their share, and disrespect for our planet.

What greed? What share? I do not take my share, I create for myself by myself. I am sure most people do. I do not believe in share, I believe in work and if someone wants to work for a large family go for it.

"Live frugally, but love extravagantly."

Starpolisher · ‎03-10-2010

Wow! Hehehe! Everything on here can become an argument! 😂Unbelievable! Well, here's my two cents. My mom is one of thirteen. My dad, one of four. My MIL is one of 14. My FIL is one of 15. I'm sure the times, religion and lack of birth control had something to do with all of them. They all grew up on farms and were poor(not dad). I'm one of 3. My dad wanted a boy. My mom told me once if my brother had been born first, my sister and I wouldn't exist. Not that she doesn't love us but she only wanted one.(now, for those who want to judge her comment, don't bother) I had a good childhood. Though, not ideal! My Dh is one of seven. I wanted six, have two. Dh only wanted two. He said even if we could have afforded more(which we couldn't) it takes more than money to be able to give each child the attention they deserve. He was right! I realized after the first one that two would be our limit! Although, now that I'm older, I sometimes wish I still had a couple still hanging around!😊

"Kindness is like snow ~It beautifies everything it covers"
-Kahlil Gibran

FiddleDeeDee · ‎03-06-2020

Lol. Here we go! :

Grandmother had 22 children. Only 9 survived to adulthood and married and had children.

Each had 9-12 children except my mother; myself and a younger brother (who died in infancy.

Each of THEM (including myself) have had 9-12 children (I had 6, one son died during birth, our daughter died a few days after she was born).

Going through 2, 3rd and 4th cousins, family size ranges from 6-9. The only ones who don't have children are those who had issues with fertility or miscarriages.

My family is HUGE!!!!!!! Wouldn't want it any other way.

*Four Seasons once again*

ALRATIBA · ‎07-15-2016

Two generations prior - lots of kids on each branch of the family tree. Recent generations until now - four seems to be average.

I have an incomplete family tree on Ancestry. The total number of people on the tree is over 3500 .... related by blood or marriage.

A good friend is the 7th of 10 children.

coco14 · ‎06-19-2010

@occasionalrain

Who died and made you Queen or King or in charge? Your response is out of bounds.

Once again, a judgement made with no respect - I know, I know - just your opinion - and it is my opinion that you are a narrow-minded know-it-all.

ThinkingOutLoud · ‎05-01-2020

@Foxxee wrote:
In the past children were needed to help on the farm and, of course, there were no birth control measures.

However, times have changed. There are serious issues to consider before deciding on a large family.

Can the parents afford them without needing financial assistance from outside sources?

Overpopulation is becoming a concern. For those in disbelief, do a bit of researching on this subject.

Will we have enough land, resources, jobs, and can we supply enough food for them? What is occurring to the environment including encroaching on animal habitat?