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[Its Me LuLuBelle2]

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@Linmo wrote:

@Its Me LuLuBelle2 It's not just about being kind to yourself but being kind to others too.  There is too much negativity going on in the world right now.

@Parischic Reach out to your daughter to talk about why she feels that way.  

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@Linmo, we certainly should be kind to others too, but all too often others forget to be kind to us.  This past Thanksgiving I hosted 14 people.  I served dinner 30 minutes after the invitation time and one of my husband's nephews had the gall to say to me, and I quote, "maybe if you started dinner earlier we would be eating on time."   This from a man who has happily gorged at my table for years and years and has never brought so much as a  2 liter bottle of the diet coke he loves.  This is far from the first snarky remark he's made, but it is his last as my husband has had enough of the insults lobbed at us .  He will not be sitting at our Christmas table this year.  Be kind to you - especially when others choose not to.

[Linmo]

@Its Me LuLuBelle2 I hear you.  Just leave him off of the guest list next year.

[hckynutjohn]

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@Its Me LuLuBelle2 wrote:

This time of year can be stressful on so many levels.  Holiday parties where you want to look your best, whilst bemoaning those few extra pounds. (When the heck did they sneak up?). Shopping for the perfect gift for the less then perfect ungrateful recipient.  Planning a dinner to please everyone and worrying how to stretch the budget for that one "special" day and then feeding your family for the couple of weeks beyond. 

Breathe.

  Be the best you without worrying what others will think. 

@Its Me LuLuBelle2 

I have lived pretty much all of my adult life without giving 1 hoot what others think of me. Those close to me are the only ones that truly know me, and I them.

Friends/acquaintances/busy bodies? I could not care less what they think of me or how I live my life. I have never quite understood why so many are concerned about what other(unimportant humans) think of them, and/or how they choose to live their life.

If one is not "kind to themselves", why would they think others would be?

hckynut(john)🥅🏒 🇺🇸

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[meallen616]

Everybody,

[Chopsmom]

@Parischic 

I'm sorry you are dealing with this.  

You're doctor is 100% correct.  Regardless of what your daughter thinks you or the whole situation, that was a vile, hateful thing to say.  You don't need to take that abuse from ANYBODY.

Take care.

[PamfromCT]

@Parischic, I am most sorry for all you have and continue to go through.  Unfortunately, your daughter sounds like a very unhappy and abusive person.  Please avoid her.

It might be nice if you could find a friendly group of people to interact with.  You might speak with your therapist about that.

It doesn’t fix things, but it might be a positive outlet for you.

Wishing you all my best!

[PamfromCT]

@meallen616,  You are so correct.  Kindness matters.  I personally think it is lacking in many places.  

[Chopsmom]

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@Its Me LuLuBelle2 wrote:

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@Linmo wrote:

@Its Me LuLuBelle2 It's not just about being kind to yourself but being kind to others too.  There is too much negativity going on in the world right now.

@Parischic Reach out to your daughter to talk about why she feels that way.  

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@Linmo, we certainly should be kind to others too, but all too often others forget to be kind to us.  This past Thanksgiving I hosted 14 people.  I served dinner 30 minutes after the invitation time and one of my husband's nephews had the gall to say to me, and I quote, "maybe if you started dinner earlier we would be eating on time."   This from a man who has happily gorged at my table for years and years and has never brought so much as a  2 liter bottle of the diet coke he loves.  This is far from the first snarky remark he's made, but it is his last as my husband has had enough of the insults lobbed at us .  He will not be sitting at our Christmas table this year.  Be kind to you - especially when others choose not to.

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Wow.  How rude can you get? 

Not inviting him this year is the perfect example of being kind to you.  Everyone else probably feels the same way too.

[Milo on qvc]

I AM SO SORRY. SO SORRY.

[teganslaw]

Parischic, I would cut that person out of my life, even if she is your daughter. You don't have to take abuse like that. No use in trying to talk to her, as some have mentioned. A person like that isn't worth your time.