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[MoJoV]

@Its Me LuLuBelle2 Your daughter was 22 when your family broke up.  That's not a child.  It sounds as though she blames you for every problem she's ever had, very immature and cruel. Until she grows up I wouldn't want anything to do with her.  When people are indifferent to us that shows they really don't care. She still has some resentment burning  toward you but has feelings still there.

[Group 5 minus 1]

@Its Me LuLuBelle2 I just don't get what you are saying.

[Sooner]

Some things can't be fixed and need to be let go of, walked away from, or simply avoided at all costs.

The bottom line, if people are toxic, if you don't get along with them, avoid being around them as much as you can.  Forgot about who did what to whom--doesn't matter.  It's just better if the two of you avoid one another.  

Move on or stay in the unpleasantness.  Do whichever brings you the most joy.  

[Snowpuppy]

While you certainly won't comply with her wishes, you can give her the gift of your absence by not attending certain functions.

People are often dismayed when you don't show up to be their emotional punching bag.

[Parischic]

@Chopsmom, I appreciate your comment..I will start therapy in the new year.
I'm still trying to process her last comment wishing I 'would die soon' but since I haven't seen or spoken to her in 8 years except for Saturday I should of known she would of said something cruel

[Parischic]

@atPamfromCT, thank you for your support. I know I have changed for the better, I have a great job as a home health care worker and friends.
As for my daughter making fun of my depression and calling it mental illness just showed me who she was as a person

[Parischic]

@Sooner, under my psychiatrists advice and my own mental health that I have spent years getting help with and changing my life so I could reunite with my kids, they still see me one way..So I decided by the way they have treated me from my 16 year old, to my 31 year old to end the relationship for good.
I don't need this abuse..And my ex husband encouraged them to have resentment towards me.

[Parischic]

@Snowpuppy your 100% right.

[Spurt]

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@Parischic wrote:
Trying, but when a chance seeing my daughter after 8 years of estrangement and going up to her and her telling me 'hope you die soon' is pretty hard to do.

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@Parischic 

I would say some prayers for your daughter and not associate with her

[Zhills]

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@Parischic wrote:
@Snowpuppyyour 100% right.

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@Parischic I can relate to your situation.  I have one that closely resembles it!

We have not had any "reasons" that anyone is aware of, they just deserted me!

Saw them last in Nov 2014.  The entire family was together for the one, and only, time and it will never happen again.  Very painful this time of year!!!!

It's not that they don't like me, they don't know me!  Might recognize me from my FB pic.

They just don't seem to care!