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[Hoovermom]

My DS is an only and for the most part has been happy with it.

[this is my nic]

On 11/8/2014 NoelSeven said:

On 11/8/2014 Plaid Pants said:

I am an only child, and I hate it. I know that even if I had one sibling, that it would be no guarantee that I would have help in taking care of my 88 year old father.

It just gets so dam frustrating being a care-taker sometimes.

That's the part that nobody likes to talk about.

I brought it up earlier on this line and several of us talked about it. The main point was there's also no guarantee of siblings helping.

So true!

My Mom had 2 brothers who had wives, one lived an hour away from my parents and grandmother. When my grandmother became bedridden, my Mom was the only one who took care of her. My uncles and their wives never bothered volunteering to help.

[Hoovermom]

On 11/8/2014 NoelSeven said:

On 11/8/2014 Plaid Pants said:

I am an only child, and I hate it. I know that even if I had one sibling, that it would be no guarantee that I would have help in taking care of my 88 year old father.

It just gets so dam frustrating being a care-taker sometimes.

That's the part that nobody likes to talk about.

I brought it up earlier on this line and several of us talked about it. The main point was there's also no guarantee of siblings helping.

You are so right NoelSeven. I am one of four (live 10 hours from my parents) and for four years took care of my dad whiie having siblings in the same town.

[NoelSeven]

On 11/8/2014 di-mc said:

On 11/8/2014 NoelSeven said:

On 11/8/2014 Plaid Pants said:

I am an only child, and I hate it. I know that even if I had one sibling, that it would be no guarantee that I would have help in taking care of my 88 year old father.

It just gets so dam frustrating being a care-taker sometimes.

That's the part that nobody likes to talk about.

I brought it up earlier on this line and several of us talked about it. The main point was there's also no guarantee of siblings helping.

So true!

My Mom had 2 brothers who had wives, one lived an hour away from my parents and grandmother. When my grandmother became bedridden, my Mom was the only one who took care of her. My uncles and their wives never bothered volunteering to help.

That's frequently the case, at least from what I've seen with friends. I gave a couple of examples but I think it's pretty much par for the course.

You mom was a really good daughter

[NoelSeven]

On 11/8/2014 Hoovermom said:

On 11/8/2014 NoelSeven said:

On 11/8/2014 Plaid Pants said:

I am an only child, and I hate it. I know that even if I had one sibling, that it would be no guarantee that I would have help in taking care of my 88 year old father.

It just gets so dam frustrating being a care-taker sometimes.

That's the part that nobody likes to talk about.

I brought it up earlier on this line and several of us talked about it. The main point was there's also no guarantee of siblings helping.

You are so right NoelSeven. I am one of four (live 10 hours from my parents) and for four years took care of my dad whiie having siblings in the same town.

Wow! That always shocks me, but my heart goes out to you, Hoovermom. I know how tough that can be.

[muttmom]

There are a lot of only children here which surprises me.

In elementary school, I knew 1 only child and she was a spoiled brat. She was demanding of the teachers and anyone who befriended her.

I am thankful that I had siblings. There was a lot of plain old family fun. I do not ever remember wanting to be an only child. I also knew I wanted more than 1 child.

[NoelSeven]

On 11/8/2014 muttmom said:

There are a lot of only children here which surprises me.

In elementary school, I knew 1 only child and she was a spoiled brat. She was demanding of the teachers and anyone who befriended her.

I am thankful that I had siblings. There was a lot of plain old family fun. I do not ever remember wanting to be an only child. I also knew I wanted more than 1 child.

Gee, thanks.

[pitdakota]

On 11/8/2014 NoelSeven said:

On 11/8/2014 Skylands said:

On 11/8/2014 stargazer said:

Only child here. Hated it all my life and was not spoiled, almost the opposite. I have two grown daughters. One east coast and one west. They hardly ever speak and see each other. Makes me so sad.

Yes, well having a brother +/or sister is no guarantee you will be close or even like each other. Life is a lonely journey with or without siblings.

I've never felt lonely. It is said that only children learn at an early age to entertain ourselves.

I am an only child as well and have to say that I have never felt lonely. Doesn't mean that I didn't have time where I wished for a sibling when I was younger, but I can truly say I have never felt lonely.

[Plaid Pants]

On 11/8/2014 muttmom said:

There are a lot of only children here which surprises me.

In elementary school, I knew 1 only child and she was a spoiled brat. She was demanding of the teachers and anyone who befriended her.

I am thankful that I had siblings. There was a lot of plain old family fun. I do not ever remember wanting to be an only child. I also knew I wanted more than 1 child.

That was just that particular person. Spoiled brats can have multiple siblings, too.

One is not indicative of the other.

[feline groovy]

Yep.