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[CrazyDaisy]

I have noticed there are two types of people....loud pushy people who hound you till they get their way and those that build relationships to come up with solutions.

In business I have always built relationships which has worked well.  Now I am dealing with loud obnoxious people who are always demanding things.  Oil and water do not mix.

How do you deal with people who are so opposite..

[deepwaterdotter]

The person who signs my paycheck expects me to remain cooperative and patient with all people if I choose to remain in their service.

[Jordan2]

You have to go along to get along. I suppose you just have to bite your tongue, hopefully if your lucky you have someone at home that doesn't take it personally if you need to vent.

[Foxxee]

@CrazyDaisy 

In business I have always built relationships which has worked well.  Now I am dealing with loud obnoxious people who are always demanding things.  Oil and water do not mix.

Are you saying you are experiencing problems at work now when in the past you didn't or in your personal relationships outside work? 

Either case, it's the sign of the times.  Other than ignoring them, staying away as far as possible, I'd like to know any other way to deal with them.

You can try finding a common ground, similar interests, but you always feel like you're walking on eggs when you'll say something you think is innocent that will set them off.  They are always offended by something.  

They don't believe facts, listen to reason, and common sense.  They often can be very nasty, disrespectful of others' opinions, and must have their own way.  They will never admit they might be or are wrong.  

Trying to discuss anything rationally with them just ends up in very distasteful childish name calling.  

[Etoile308]

I think there are far more than just two types of people.

If this is actually work related, you do what you need to do to get the job done and focus on the end goal.

If this is personal, don't interact with people you don't like. That includes exchanging communications, baiting to others, or being passive aggressive. As adults we should be able to ignore and rise above things and people that irritate.

[Suzeecat]

Over the years I am gradually getting better about expressing my boundaries tactfully.  Practice saying "I'm  not comfortable with that".

[CrazyDaisy]

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@Foxxee wrote:

@CrazyDaisy 

In business I have always built relationships which has worked well.  Now I am dealing with loud obnoxious people who are always demanding things.  Oil and water do not mix.

Are you saying you are experiencing problems at work now when in the past you didn't or in your personal relationships outside work? 

Either case, it's the sign of the times.  Other than ignoring them, staying away as far as possible, I'd like to know any other way to deal with them.

You can try finding a common ground, similar interests, but you always feel like you're walking on eggs when you'll say something innocent that will set them off.  

They don't believe facts, listen to reason, and common sense.  They often can be very nasty, disrespectful of others' opinions, and must have their own way.  They will never admit they might be or are wrong.  

Trying to discuss anything rationally with them just ends up in very distasteful name calling.  

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Oh at work, think this guy just likes to argue for the sake of arguing.  He doesn't like a certain tax, every time I pay it there is a half hour rant about if I agree that as a business owner he should have to pay it.  Not my call, State says you pay. Just one example

[agb80]

@CrazyDaisyall the more reason you will enjoy your retirement when that day arrives.  No more conflicts and no more jerks ruining your day. 

[Laura14]

@CrazyDaisy  I have had that call!

I tell my people we are required by state law to remit tax and just like I can't tell Walmart I am not paying the sales tax on my receipt, I can't tell you that you are exempt from the state tax laws either.

If you don't like it, call the state revenue department. Only they have the authority to make an exception for you. 

I actually had a guy do that once when he thought we were taxing something he didn't think was taxable. The county government set him straight. 

Bottom line, don't give them a half hour by engaging in answering their nonsense questions that debate a policy you don't create or control. Take them seriously and immediately direct them to the person who can help them (not you) and move on. Either they get they're being ridiculous and it stops or they move on and harass someone else. 

And by the way, no paycheck is worth abuse. Sir or Ma'am, I can't help you with that. This is who you need to speak to if that's really a concern. They have the authority. I do not. I am sorry I can't help you with this but you have a wonderful day. BYE!  

[Tinkrbl44]

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@CrazyDaisy wrote:

I have noticed there are two types of people....loud pushy people who hound you till they get their way and those that build relationships to come up with solutions.

In business I have always built relationships which has worked well.  Now I am dealing with loud obnoxious people who are always demanding things.  Oil and water do not mix.

How do you deal with people who are so opposite..

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@CrazyDaisy 

I don't think there are only two types of people.   

Having said that, it's obviously time for you to learn to get along with those that aren't "easy".  

Referencing your comment in post #7, don't engage (again)  in conversations you've already had.    It's not like you can do anything about it, so they are talking to the wrong person. 

"Oh at work, think this guy just likes to argue for the sake of arguing.  He doesn't like a certain tax, every time I pay it there is a half hour rant about if I agree that as a business owner he should have to pay it.  Not my call, State says you pay. Just one example"