widows thread - Page 143

possummink · ‎03-09-2010

Anna's Hummingbird ~~Fremont, CA.:

possummink · ‎03-09-2010

Nice Retrievers near a country pond!:

snappyfrappy · ‎03-10-2010

Dear shaina2, please accept my deepest sympathies in the loss of your dear hubby. You will find support and encouragement on this thread anytime. Someone is always here, and we all understand what you are going through. Of course we are individuals so we experience grief if our own way, but the comonalities are known by all of us. You have a tough thing. Anniversaries are always hard for most of us, and yours will have that painful reminder of his diagnosis. You had such a short time to come to terms with what was coming. I think that's hard. My hubby went Home on October 17th 2010. He had been ill with Parkinsons for 10 years and then cancer. He died of metastatic tongue cancer here at home under hospice. I had a long time to prepare for it, but it's always a shock. He had suffered for such a long time, that my predominate feeling was relief and gratitude. Five years. Or yesterday.

I'm also sorry you lost your pet. The companionship. And it was bound to stir up your grief as any loss does. I'm grateful you have children. My family has helped me so much. Hubby and I purchased this home in 1986 and last year I sold it to DD who has always lived with us. She has never married. So we continue to live together as before, but the responsibilites rest on her and if something happens to me, she won't lose her home.

Please feel free to come here anytime. We do understand and we do pray for one another. May the Lord grant you the grace to live one day at a time. Life will never be the same, but it can be good.

snappy

snappyfrappy · ‎03-10-2010

possummink, if I'm understanding correctly, your brother died of CHF last night. I'm so sorry for the loss for you and the GD and the 80 year old lady, his friend. I've prayed for everyone concerned and trust the Lord will grant the comfort only He can.

Hi phluphy, good to see you.

Blessings on each of you. Hope the weekend is good for you. It's in the high 90s here.

snappy

Elom · ‎06-15-2010

I have been reading the thoughts of all of you for some time. My husband passed away very suddenly, actually on way home from work. We have had a home in TN for 22 years and were living in GA. He had just brought me and our dog to TN to go back to GA to list our house as his retirement was approaching. It was easier in the beginning to do the house selling without the dog a cocker and not in the best of health. He left us Sunday and was gone Tuesday. Just yanked away. My question.... I am alone how do you ever decide where to live. I have decided on Florida but where is up to me. My family has been of no support to me. It is just a sister and brother both older. I rarely hear from them. Also I was able to sell the house in GA and am now residing in TN my son who can work from home will stay until I sell.

Do I just call a realtor in an area and explore? Wish I had a crystal ball!!!! Thanks for any thoughts and I do enjoy the encouraging words I read here.

phluphy · ‎05-30-2010

Evom, so sorry for your loss, it is a hard journey for us to travel. Trust me when I say if it weren't for the special ladies on this forum I would not have made it. One day at a time is my motto. I just moved from a big house to a smaller condo and it was difficult. I did purge several things that had accumulated for over 50 years. Downsizing is hard too.

We have relatives that have a winter home in Treasure Island, Fl. It is beautiful, we had spent some time there and did enjoy it. The only thing is the humidity, but A/C is always a help. Check out online and see what you like. Contact a realtor also. It is hard to do long distance but I think Possummink can tell you more about Florida than me. She is very knowledable in the state of Florida.

All the best to you, and come here anytime to share with us. God Bless You.

phluphy · ‎05-30-2010

Shaina2, Just want to say Hi, and that I too am sorry for your loss. We often travel this road and need someone to share our thoughts with. So glad you have family to help you through your hard times. That in itself is a blessing. Come here anytime. All my best to you.

possummink · ‎03-09-2010

@snappyfrappy wrote:
possummink, if I'm understanding correctly, your brother died of CHF last night. I'm so sorry for the loss for you and the GD and the 80 year old lady, his friend. I've prayed for everyone concerned and trust the Lord will grant the comfort only He can.

Hi phluphy, good to see you.

Blessings on each of you. Hope the weekend is good for you. It's in the high 90s here.

snappy

Hi Snappy, Thank you for the prayers and kind thoughts. Mike did die of heart failure or a lethal arrhythmia. My daughter told me what they called it, but I am not sure of it now. He'd had several open heart surgeries and bypasses, lots of other procedures and was in and out of the hospital about 4 times this summer, not counting this last time. We knew he was on borrowed time, but he had said he was feeling better on Thursday evening, when my daughter talked to him from the cardiologists office. She works for a cardiology group at the hospital and usually went to see him everyday. My younger brother was there with his wife and Mikes companion of over 25years. They left as he was feeling good and planning on coming home Saturday. God had other plans and so Mike went Home to Heaven. He'd been having such a hard time breathing at times and was restricted in so many ways after having been active his whole life. He's breathing freely up in Heaven and is not suffering anymore. A blessing for him and a deep sadness for us, but God knows best.

Take good care and thank you again.