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[loveschocolate]

@lynbeechwood, my DD just finished her freshman year in college. The first few weeks she would FaceTime frequently. She also texted. We really didn't have a set time. As the year wore on, the FaceTime and texts decreased in frequency but that was okay. She was busy with friends, studying and work on campus. You never stop worrying. 

[Tinkrbl44]

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@lynbeechwood wrote:
Ok wow! I guess I was thinking what is so hard about talking or texting every day! Boy am i going to have an adjustment to make! I guess I just wasnt sure what is being too over bearing-- it is so hard letting go. I know it is a natural part of life that is positive-- I'm just one of those moms who wish her kids could have stayed little!
How did you all not worry yourself sick?

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@lynbeechwood

If you are confident in the way you raised your child, there's no reason to worry yourself sick.  You two will most likely develop a rhythm .... and if too much time goes by just send off a little text that you're thinking about him.

[ROMARY]

Just thinking that it would seem (to me) nice when kids would/could attend nearby colleges, if possible.  Many very successful folks we've known graduated from nearby colleges/universities/etc.  They 'stuck around' the area after graduating, and seem happy throughout the years.  Nothing better than knowing the local community and future employers.  More "In's" are helpful.  Sometimes it's 'who you know' that is very beneficial re: job hunting.  One employer tells another local employer that you are hunting for a job, etc., etc.  Regardless, wishing all college students the very best, no matter where they are. 

[ROMARY]

Yes, I might add that we alway worry, even when they are attending college a mile away.    That's human nature for parents.

[sunshine45]

when my daughter was away we talked a few times a week on the phone and texted or messaged each other on twitter or facebook almost daily.....several times a day sometimes. she came home a couple of weekends each semester.

when she went abroad for her entire junior year it was a bit more difficult to talk, but the texting or facebook messaging definitely came in handy. we used skype once a week, but her connection was not always good.

now i have two more in colleges but they are living at home.

[bri20]

We texted my daughter regularly - probably me more than my husband.

I always checked in with her every morning and every night by text.  We spoke on the phone a couple times a week. 

Now that she's home on summer break and working and catching up with her "home" friends, I don't even see her that much.  LOL

[Tinkrbl44]

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@bri20 wrote:

We texted my daughter regularly - probably me more than my husband.

I always checked in with her every morning and every night by text.  We spoke on the phone a couple times a week. 

Now that she's home on summer break and working and catching up with her "home" friends, I don't even see her that much.  LOL

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@bri20

Well, at least she's sleeping under your roof ... lol

[bri20]

@Tinkrbl44, yes, that's a nice feeling when everyone is home safe and sound. 

[queendiva]

Both DSs are recenty college grads: classes of 2013 and 2016.

#2 called on Sunday afternoons. #1 called/ texted less than weekly. Both lived at schools 2 1/2 and 3 hours drive from home. No news was good news. They adjusted well and quickly to academic and social life. We did stay in touch by exchanging emails several times weekly. We mutually chose not to be facebook friends as I felt they needed that area of their lives to be private. Each was fb friends with the other. I knew if there was a big problem with one I would be informed by the other. Developing independence is vital at this stage of young adulthood.