Your college student

lynbeechwood · ‎03-19-2010

What were your expectations or hopes in terms of your child talking or texting with you? My son is going off to college -he is our first to go away to school- and I am wondering how I will do- not seeing him!!how often did you talk or text with your child- what is realistic ?

riley1 · ‎03-10-2010

There is a lot of adjusting that goes on, especially in the first 6 weeks. My one daughter would not call, rarely texted - She would talk to her father just not me - LOL - Came to find out she was very homesick and was afraid she would cry if she her heard my voice.

My second daughter was fine with everything - until 9/11 - then she kind of lost it.

I wouldn't expect to hear from him much in the beginning - there is so much to take in and absorb - ask him to just let you know once that he is ok - or set up a day/time to have a quick chat.

If he plays sports there are practices and school studies that take up quite a bit of time. And it also depends on the credit load/major he might be studying.

I know you would like it to be way more often than will actually happen - LOL. Afterall, we are Moms!!

KarenQVC · ‎05-13-2010

We phoned our son on Sundays--afternoon or evening, of course.

3suwm5 · ‎06-15-2016

We have 2 sons. The oldest one is more emotional than the youngest. We heard from the oldest very often. I was thrilled because it was very hard for me to have him gone. Now at age 28, finishing grad school, he is busy and we don't hear too often. When I send him a text, he always responds the same day, even now. He has a girlfriend and I still get a text, if I text him.

Now the youngest, that's a different story. Sometimes I hear from him if I text or email and other times I don't. He is 26, graduated from college and working. It is a happy day for me, if I get a response. I relish everyone I get from him, even though they are few and far between.

Best wishes to you--

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

My oldest went to a college that was three hours away. I wasn't a sahm then, I had a life outside my kids and my girl was an indepent, young woman who was looking forward to her freedom. I had no expectations when it came to texts. I did expect that she would call every few days. Because we're close. And that's what happened. She called me every 3 or 4 days. Texted when she needed something. Depending on what was going on, it would be a long or short call. She usually called me at work. It was her dad who got the emails. She shares his sense of humor and they sent jokes, articles etc to each other. Beginning in sophmore year, she had her own little studio apartment and worked as a waitress. She rarely came home. Just for a day or two for the major holidays and I admit, that upset me. But I never said a word to her. My baby had left the nest.....and she was soaring.

qvcfreak · ‎03-10-2010

I actually heard more from him his freshman year, he wasn't working and he's only 2 hrs away and would come home often. Now he works at a veterinary clinic so he rarely comes down. Even the holidays he comes in the morning and has to go back same day and take care of pets that are kennel for vacation and those that are sick. He does text a lot but sometimes I text him to call when he has a chance as I want to hear his voice. I'm happy as long as he's happy and doing well.

beach-mom · ‎03-09-2010

My son attends college on the other side of the country. If I had to start again, I would set up a regular time and day for a call or a skype. When he first started, I had to sit on my hands not to call him every day! He would call us a few times a week. If I DID call him, it seemed he was always "on my way to class; I can't talk right now, Mom"! LOL! No, it wasn't really THAT bad! He did answer when I called once in a while! Now, if I have something to tell him, I just call. But I try not to call every day.

He and DH text a lot. He is majoring in a science, so he texts DH a lot about classes and things I don't understand. He will tell me when I call, but it's hard for me to get excited about the dissection of something!

We have evolved into a comfortable pattern. He almost always calls on Sunday - and of course any time he needs to ask us something. We talk to him a few times a week otherwise!

lynbeechwood · ‎03-19-2010

Ok wow! I guess I was thinking what is so hard about talking or texting every day! Boy am i going to have an adjustment to make! I guess I just wasnt sure what is being too over bearing-- it is so hard letting go. I know it is a natural part of life that is positive-- I'm just one of those moms who wish her kids could have stayed little!
How did you all not worry yourself sick?

Sunnyfield · ‎04-20-2010

Interesting question and times have surely changed with texting, e-mail and free long distance!!!

Back in the day..when I was in college, .I called my parents once a week, on Sunday afternoons....

My DS lives halfway across the country...we text off and on...he is not much for "chit chat" but I know he will call if there is something important going on...otherwise we text to "check in" about once a week. He has never been one to talk on the phone unless something important/serious was going on...to this day, I get nervous when he calls...is it good news or not so good....???