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[mintedrose]

Just found out that my niece's boyfriend proposed to her on his birthday party. Im not sure why people are still having birthday parties as we're going through such difficult times, but his mom arranged the party and invited "some people". As everyone got singing happy birthday to him, he proposed to my neice. I dont know this guy but if he really cared for her why oh why would be put her in danger around other people and do this in the middle of a pandemic. Why now? Why cant he wait while this is over? My neice just started med school last year and we are all shocked as to why he's rushing. I dont feel good about this but I didnt say anything to my neice as I wanna be supportive. I love her and want her to be happy but I dont want her to get thrown off her path. Shes uber smart and needs to finish med school.  Ive never met him but this action makes me not like this guy much already. 

[BeccaLou]

@mintedrose Well they didn't get married yet. Are they talking about that they set a date, if not, wait and see before you make yourself sick. 

[Carmie]

Why oh why did your neice agree to attend a birthday party when she knows it is forbidden right now and dangerous?

You are blaming her new fiance, but she is off of the hook?

BTW, my nephew is in med school and he got married right after he was accepted.  I think it helps them get grants and other financial help, so this is probably a good thing.  A young married couple with no money with one party attending med school works out better than having mom and dad try to foot a big bill.

Your niece is an adult..I say stay out of it.

[Katcat1]

Whoever arranged this party is delusional and it sounds like he is lacking in the common sense dept.  You can die from COVID 19 and when the president says or your governor says social distancing, that is exactly what it means.  I want no one in my face during this time.

[RedLipstick]

Even though I do not know the region of the states this took place in I agree it is not appropriate timing. I am amazed that he did this on his birthday. Outside influence can surely work wonders in the wrong direction. I know I have one in my own family. Always ready for a wrong turn direction which can hurt or harm one. Hopefully there were no children involved or elderly who might think they are safe from harm because they are with family members. 

As to why now?  There might be many reasons but this girl needs time to study and to keep focused. Distractions abound, but a boyfriend or now fiance well he will want attention in many directions and she can or will be distracted. College is hard in that choosen direction or field. Just my version which can be called dated, but I have a brother to prove it. 

Wishing her well.

[mintedrose]

@Carmie  im not sure why you're trying to be so sarcastic in your post but from what my niece knew there wasnt supposed to be that many people there. Her parents are ok with supporting her in every way so to assume that its better to get married for financial reasons is rather an immature and irresponsible advice.  

[Catty2]

Sounds like bad choices all around - the party with people close together and the proposal.  Maybe he was afraid she'd say no if they were alone.  Hope she doesn't change her plans for med school.  

[kitcat51]

Oh, good grief.

[AuntG]

Whoever arranged the party seems out of touch with the world. However, getting engaged doesn't bother me. They may not be planning to rush into marriage.

[mimomof4]

I won't comment on the party part of your post.

As far as the engagement - People need something positive these days.  We are surrounded by so much negativity and doom and gloom wouldn't it be nice to have something happy to look forward to them.  If they can make it through all of this toghether it will make them a stronger couple.