Why oh why would someone do this? - Page 3

Shanus · ‎05-17-2010

@Katcat1 wrote:
Whoever arranged this party is delusional and it sounds like he is lacking in the common sense dept. You can die from COVID 19 and when the president says or your governor says social distancing, that is exactly what it means. I want no one in my face during this time.

@Katcat1 ITA. They must be living in a bubble. This is not measles or chicken pocks like when our kids were young and rush them over to another kids' house, they'd catch it and get it over with. This is deadly. Those who don't understand pay the price, but unfortunately take others down with them. Be responsible and keep others safe if you don't care enough about yourself. Crazy to have a party, for sure.

NYC Susan · ‎03-13-2010

@mintedrose wrote:
Just found out that my niece's boyfriend proposed to her on his birthday party. Im not sure why people are still having birthday parties as we're going through such difficult times, but his mom arranged the party and invited "some people". As everyone got singing happy birthday to him, he proposed to my neice. I dont know this guy but if he really cared for her why oh why would be put her in danger around other people and do this in the middle of a pandemic. Why now? Why cant he wait while this is over? My neice just started med school last year and we are all shocked as to why he's rushing. I dont feel good about this but I didnt say anything to my neice as I wanna be supportive. I love her and want her to be happy but I dont want her to get thrown off her path. Shes uber smart and needs to finish med school. Ive never met him but this action makes me not like this guy much already.

I see nothing wrong with a young couple getting engaged, even if one is still in school (med or otherwise). You say you've never met him, so clearly you know little about him or their relationship. Maybe he's a great guy, and she doesn't feel that it's rushing at all. It's their lives, not yours.

The bigger issue for me is that there was an actual birthday party when everyone certainly knows we're supposed to be social distancing. He didn't put her in danger! She did that herself by attending this party. I don't know why any of them were there. It makes me angry because it endangers other people. If your niece is in medical school, she knows that and should be acting more responsibly than most of us, not less. She certainly doesn't sound "uber smart" to me. Shame on all of them!!

NYC Susan · ‎03-13-2010

@software wrote:
@Silver Lining wrote:

@mintedrose wrote:
Just found out that my niece's boyfriend proposed to her on his birthday party. Im not sure why people are still having birthday parties as we're going through such difficult times, but his mom arranged the party and invited "some people". As everyone got singing happy birthday to him, he proposed to my neice. I dont know this guy but if he really cared for her why oh why would be put her in danger around other people and do this in the middle of a pandemic. Why now? Why cant he wait while this is over? My neice just started med school last year and we are all shocked as to why he's rushing. I dont feel good about this but I didnt say anything to my neice as I wanna be supportive. I love her and want her to be happy but I dont want her to get thrown off her path. Shes uber smart and needs to finish med school. Ive never met him but this action makes me not like this guy much already.

I won't comment on any aspect of the birthday party or the proposal without additional information. About your disapproval regarding your niece's engagement, it's inappropriate for you to meddle in her business. You said you don't like her fiance although you've never met him. Your attitude about him and the engagement will be obvious whether you discuss it with your niece or not.

As to a person in medical school being engaged or married, it is usually beneficial in numerous ways. My nephew got married shortly after graduating from college and beginning med school. It's good to have a partner to share the trials and tribulations plus the affection, support and financial committment.

It can be beneficial for a male med student, not sure it works the same for women.

I'm not sure what difference that would make. I know several people - both male and female - who married while they were in med school, law school, etc, and they were grateful for the support they received from their spouses. Starting their lives together in that way created wonderful foundations for strong and happy marriages. Male or female had nothing to do with it at all.

stevieb · ‎03-10-2010

@Carmie wrote:
Why oh why did your neice agree to attend a birthday party when she knows it is forbidden right now and dangerous?

You are blaming her new fiance, but she is off of the hook?

BTW, my nephew is in med school and he got married right after he was accepted. I think it helps them get grants and other financial help, so this is probably a good thing. A young married couple with no money with one party attending med school works out better than having mom and dad try to foot a big bill.

Your niece is an adult..I say stay out of it.

@Carmie My thoughts exactly... If the niece is 'uber smart' then one assumes she knows what she's doing and makes choices and decisions without her aunt's input... Clearly, anything untoward must be the fault of the fiancee...

In my pantry with my cupcakes...

stevieb · ‎03-10-2010

@Carmie wrote:
@mintedrose wrote:
@Carmie im not sure why you're trying to be so sarcastic in your post but from what my niece knew there wasnt supposed to be that many people there. Her parents are ok with supporting her in every way so to assume that its better to get married for financial reasons is rather an immature and irresponsible advice.
There was no sarcasm in what I said, not even a hint.

i truly meant it. Your niece is an adult. It is none of your business if she has a boyfriend and is engaged. If you were close with her, she would have introduced her boyfriend to you before the engagement. You haven't even met him and you dislike him.

You are blaming her boyfriend and his mother for the party, but she was not an innocent bystander. She chose to go. The last time I heard, she, as the rest of us were advised not to visit anyone.

i didn't say she was getting married for financial reasons, but it won't hurt. It was not advice, just an observation.

My nephew is doing well with his schooling and has not been distracted by his wife. I am sure your niece will do well too. It takes a special kind of person to be a doctor.

I have two nieces who are doctors and one who is a Physician's Assistant and another who is a Nurse Practioner. They all worked hard and they made it. Your niece will too.

Again, Butt out of her business.

I wonder how your niece would react to your post. I would be livid and She probably would be too.

Again @Carmie your thoughts match mine...

In my pantry with my cupcakes...

San Antonio Gal · ‎05-18-2017

Doesn't sound very uber smart attending a party. Shame on his mother for planning the event and for those attending. They obviously aren't taking this corona situation very seriously. Jmo @mintedrose .

Cakers3 · ‎06-17-2015

@Carmie wrote:
Why oh why did your neice agree to attend a birthday party when she knows it is forbidden right now and dangerous?

You are blaming her new fiance, but she is off of the hook?

BTW, my nephew is in med school and he got married right after he was accepted. I think it helps them get grants and other financial help, so this is probably a good thing. A young married couple with no money with one party attending med school works out better than having mom and dad try to foot a big bill.

Your niece is an adult..I say stay out of it.

@Carmie Not to mention she is set to attend medical school; SHE is the one who should know better too.

They are adults; this is not for the OP to judge this young man without even knowing him.

People will do what people will do; I cannot imagine worrying about something that hasn't happened, may not happen, he may be the best person this niece will ever have in her life.

"" Compassion is a verb."-Thich Nhat Hanh