When Do You Know It's Time To Move On?

BarbiHollywood · ‎11-09-2011

Good morning. I have an issue currently happening with a good friend and was wondering if anyone's ever had the same thing happen. I'm trying really harrrd to figure out if it's just time to move on.

Friend and I have known each other about 15 years. Great person, funny, always have good laughs and a good time when we get together. We've never had a fight or even a disagreement, but what seems to be just out of the blue, we're disconnected this past year. We used to text each other a few times a day whether it was just to say hello or to let the other one know that we bumped into a mutual friend or to share a funny meme. Things changed. No more of any of that. This past January, I got an invitation to her daughter's baby shower.. I didn't want to go because our friendship took that sudden shift and it would have felt uncomfortable, but I went. She wasn't as friendly to me as she once was, and I even noticed that a mutual friend was a bit cold to me, too. I made the most of the day and gave a very nice gift. We had lunch at the end of April, but I had to cut it short due to an emergency that I needed to handle ASAP. Got a text in July that we should get together to have lunch for my JUNE birthday, but nothing happened. Got a last-minute text last week asking about lunch that day to which I quickly asked if we could do it later in the week. No answer. That's where we are now. No plans, not even immediate responses to texts. I just don't know what happened. I'm thinking of calling to see what might be happening on her end, but my feelings are kinda too hurt right now to pick up the phone. Should I take this as a sign that it's just time to move on?

Jaspertimes · ‎06-14-2010

Call.

manny2 · ‎05-24-2010

It sounds like you need to communicate. Life gets busy and sometimes we don’t text or call as often as we did. I would sit down with her and ask if there is an issue. Tell her how you feel. If friendship is important to both of you. Then you will do what needs to be done.

We all have this inflated idea that other people know what we are thinking, and what we need. It's obvious she has an issue. She domonstrated that with the chilly reception at the baby shower.

Other people do not know what we are feeling or need unless we tell them. Good luck.

Janey2 · ‎06-07-2010

Call. I dislike guessing games and speculation. Find out the problem (if you care about her friendship) and either try and fix it or just walk away. In the end it might be a silly misunderstanding.

tends2dogs · ‎05-08-2010

The first part of your post suggests that it is worth a call to find out what is going on. Fifteen years? I would want to know, then make the decision to move on or mend what is going on.

Fear not Brothers and Sisters! I have read THE BOOK..........we win!!!

CAcableGirl2 · ‎06-03-2010

@BarbiHollywood I would move on. You've reached out and received nothing - you went to a shower and gave a nice gift and she was cold.

Obviously, she isn't interested in saving this relationship, so I would move on. People change over the years, and it may have nothing to do with you. You've tried, and received nothing in return. I think that is your answer.

......You look like I need a drink.....

Imaoldhippie · ‎06-10-2015

Its time, move on.

BE THE PERSON YOUR DOG THINKS YOU ARE! (unknown)

CANDLEQUEEN · ‎03-09-2010

Call and have a nice chat. Otherwise you will always wonder...Good Friendships are hard to come by, don't just give up on this without finding out why she is acting this way..