When Do You Know It's Time To Move On? - Page 5

CalminHeart · ‎03-09-2010

Call your friend. She may have things going on that you don't know about. Maybe she needs a friend.

I never understood why people are so quick to dump a friend. Life ebbs and flows. Friendships change for periods of time. Stuff happens. It's not all about you.

CalminHeart · ‎03-09-2010

@Rockycoast wrote:
Friendships are a two way street. You are not holding up your end either. You could set the date for your birthday. You could set the date for a luncheon. She invited you to the shower. She may have been very busy with shower things. You took offense. So from what I read from your post, I see you also not holding up your end. It is not just your friend.

Bingo!

BarbiHollywood · ‎11-09-2011

@Sage04 Good morning! The thing is, I don't see the mutual friend ever unless the three of us are together. There's no communication between me and the mutual friend outside of our Girls Night Dinners that are, at this point, probably only twice a year.

But I texted my friend yesterday, and we are supposed to have lunch next Thursday. I'll be able to gauge what the situation is then. If it's not the same, I'll have to accept it for what it is.

I REALLY APPRECIATE EVERYONE OFFERING THEIR THOUGHTS ON THIS. Thank you for taking the time to reply. ;-)

BarbiHollywood · ‎11-09-2011

@LuvSoCal wrote:
I would text her and ask her what day would be good for her to get together. Tell her you're overdue for a lunch date and looking forward to seeing her. When you see her tell her you've missed her friendship lately and hope that everything is good with her and her family. Maybe, she'll open up and let you know if there are any issues that she might be dealing with. I would try that before moving on.

@LuvSoCal That's exactly what I did yesterday after reading everyone's comments. We set Thursday for liunch.

BarbiHollywood · ‎11-09-2011

@CalminHeart Initially, it was ME who was doing all the reaching out. I remember calling a few times, we'd chat, we'd say we needed to get together, we'd target a date, then nothing. I knew her Dad had been ill, and after recently losing my own Dad, I was especially concerned and in contact often asking how he was doiing, if she needed anything, etc. Then I took a half step back and waited. And now we're here. I hope things go back to normal when we meet next week.

I'm so happy that so many took the time to reply to my post. I appreciate ALL the comments. Thanks. ;-)))

Sage04 · ‎07-10-2011

@BarbiHollywood wrote:
@Sage04 Good morning! The thing is, I don't see the mutual friend ever unless the three of us are together. There's no communication between me and the mutual friend outside of our Girls Night Dinners that are, at this point, probably only twice a year.

But I texted my friend yesterday, and we are supposed to have lunch next Thursday. I'll be able to gauge what the situation is then. If it's not the same, I'll have to accept it for what it is.

I REALLY APPRECIATE EVERYONE OFFERING THEIR THOUGHTS ON THIS. Thank you for taking the time to reply. ;-)

@BarbiHollywood ok. I thought the "friend" was also a friend of yours. Ok she doesn't count but somehow I believe she is involved and something went down.

If you are interested in continuing the friendship with your friend of 15 years and it sounds as if you really do, I hope it works out. Waiting to hear what happens.

BarbiHollywood · ‎11-09-2011

@Sage04 wrote:
@BarbiHollywood wrote:
@Sage04 Good morning! The thing is, I don't see the mutual friend ever unless the three of us are together. There's no communication between me and the mutual friend outside of our Girls Night Dinners that are, at this point, probably only twice a year.

But I texted my friend yesterday, and we are supposed to have lunch next Thursday. I'll be able to gauge what the situation is then. If it's not the same, I'll have to accept it for what it is.

I REALLY APPRECIATE EVERYONE OFFERING THEIR THOUGHTS ON THIS. Thank you for taking the time to reply. ;-)

@BarbiHollywood ok. I thought the "friend" was also a friend of yours. Ok she doesn't count but somehow I believe she is involved and something went down.

If you are interested in continuing the friendship with your friend of 15 years and it sounds as if you really do, I hope it works out. Waiting to hear what happens.

@Sage04 Aww, thank you!! That mutual friend is a neighbor of Friend's, and we've all had Girls Night dinners every now and then to celebrate a birthday or just to catch up, but it's not often at all. I really, really enjoy my Friend, and hope it's really nothing more than we've both been busy. Fingers crossed. Keep ya posted! Thanks again!