Among Friends

[KathyM23]

Just text back Thanks.  Then forget about it.  If she sends a check that is good.  If not, you learned a lesson.

[Luvsmyfam]

That is exactly what I did

[Sooner]

It seems the OP and the SIL do not get along, which is really the crux of the matter.  I suspect not attending the wedding is a good idea.   

I will add that people who are angry, miffed, or otherwise tense or looking to be tense do NOT make for a happy wedding:  Albeit sometimes they do make for a memorable one. . .   But I do from personal experience know it doesn't do anyone any good. 

[Roscoe the Rascal]

Why should she forget and lesson learned?  She agreed to chip in so she should.  Why should her sister in law be angry about it?  Seems off to me.

Not sure why you are upset either?  She might have forgotten.

[skatting44]

 Go to the wedding , eat a wonderful meal, dance and enjoy yourself . 

 Don't punish yourself for other's  not responding as you would have liked. The world is full of rude people , so don't deny yourself  life.

Put all this behind you .

Hope your SIL follows through with  sending you what was promised.

[Luvsmyfam]

thank you camile1936 for your response.and everyone else.never thought I would recieve this many response.even tho I don't know any of you,I feel like we are all coffee friends.make me smile

[manny2]

@Luvsmyfam You did the right thing. It doesn't matter if she hosted at her house, or if she bought stamps. If everyone agreed to go in on the gift card she should have paid up. Cash the check and don't think about it.

When your family meets to take the picture just focus on that. If she is angry that's her problem. Remember you can only be a doormat if you lay down. Don't lay down!

[Luvsmyfam]

You are so right Manny 2.i guess I should focus on my eldery parents,who I love dearly.i am the oldest of 5,and in the back of my head,when they are gone,I will have no family at all.i have a daughter who lives with my x and a baby sister I am very close 2.my daughter has issues of her own,so I rarely see her.we talk on the phone,and maybe once a yr she comes to my house.

[Desertdi]

Calligraphers charge $2 to $5 per envelope.   Maybe your SIL believes the time she spent was included in "her share" of the expenses.

[Alexia]

She should be embarrassed that she had to be asked to contribute her share. Tell her thank you and move on. Life's too short to dwell on people like that.