Re: UPDATE - SON ADMITTED TO HOSPITAL - Page 2

shoppinggirl12 · ‎04-24-2018

Well, I have to go, it was mandated by hospital. It is when you get someone commited, against their will. You then have to tell them what you observed. They said he can get out, as long as doctor agrees, he can go to outpatient care. But that is only good if you DO it.

He is still very mad at me. I don't understand it. It really makes me sad. He has access to a phone, and never called me.

Carmie · ‎10-25-2010

@shoppinggirl12 Of course he is angry at you. He is having a normal reaction to the situation. He is ill and not thinking straight.

You need to think of him as being sick and not being able to respond reasonably to his involuntary commintment. Don’t push him or say anything hurtful to him or complain about his treatment of you. This,situation is not about you or your feelings.

It’s about a young man who is ill and needs help and support to get through hard time.

CrazyDaisy · ‎03-20-2010

@shoppinggirl12 wrote:
Well, I have to go, it was mandated by hospital. It is when you get someone commited, against their will. You then have to tell them what you observed. They said he can get out, as long as doctor agrees, he can go to outpatient care. But that is only good if you DO it.

He is still very mad at me. I don't understand it. It really makes me sad. He has access to a phone, and never called me.

You had him committed, he may not being seeing that as a positive right now. Give it time.

Someday, when scientists discover the center of the Universe....some people will be disappointed it is not them.

AuntG · ‎03-09-2010

You must know why he is mad at you. Go to the hearing, be calm, and answer any questions. Don't draw any conclusions yet. As an adult, he may be released and you will have to accept what appears to be a dumb decision.

YorkieonmyPillow · ‎01-13-2013

@chrystaltree wrote:
Well, you certainly do make a lot of assumptions based on little to no information. You don't know what the diagnosis is because your son's doctor can't disclose that to you and you don't know if he had a "manic" episode. You don't know what he had or what's going on with him. So, you don't know if it's too soon to discharge him. You also don't know the conditions of his discharge. When he is dicharged, there will be a continuing treatment plan and therapy visits and perhaps medication and perhaps follow up with social worker. They aren't going to just send him off on his merry way. He's not a child, you aren't his guardian. If the doctors feel that he should be discharged. If they feel that it safe for him to be discharged and if there is a discharge plan in place; he will be discharged. He's going to need a support system and as his mother, they probably want to included you as part of that support system. You are calling it a "hospital court" and I don't really know why unless he was recently arrested and there are law enforcement issues. That doesn't seem to be the case. I believe they asked you to attend a planning session that will include his doctors, a social worker, a discharge planner, probably his girlfriend and you since you. That's not a "court".

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Mz iMac · ‎07-26-2014

@shoppinggirl12 wrote:
I don't understand it. It really makes me sad. He has access to a phone, and never called me.

From reading your postings, that seems to be the problem. Depending on the outcome of this "hospital court".....

Since your son is an adult you will need to take him to court to take over his medical decisions. Consult w/a "family lawyer" to check out your options in your state. Consultations are FREE!

Most importantly, if I were in your shoes, I would CALL or visit in person your local Social Service department. Find out if there are "bipolor" support groups *for families* in your area (if that is your son's diagnosis). Go to them. There you will learn how to "cope" w/help from "families" who have been and/or still in your shoes. You will also learn all there is to know about bipolor conditions.

Do a Google and/or Binge search for reliable online resources.

"Never argue with a fool. Onlookers may not be able to tell the difference."

CAcableGirl2 · ‎06-03-2010

@shoppinggirl12 If the girlfriend has contact with you, I would make sure to tell her that you love your son, and will unconditionally love him regardless if he wants to communicate with you.

Don't be too aggressive with her (or she may cut you off), but I would be sure that she knows that you care about him, love him, and only want him to be happy and healthy, and will always willing to have a relationship with him if and when he is interested.

She may be the link that you need to reconnect with your son in the future, if not in the next few days or weeks.

......You look like I need a drink.....

software · ‎06-08-2016

Try to meet with the case worker before court to review the documents.

Why can the case worker share information but not the doctor?

If he's an adult, all his records should be private.

Why does he even have a case worker taking him to court?

Lot's of questions

Maysie · ‎06-16-2015

I’m a Psych nurse. Sounds like your son is asking for discharge and there’s going to be a probate hearing in the hospital. It is usual that family members are asked to come. A judge will be there and it will be an official court proceeding. Unless the Dr. and interested parties can show proof that he is a danger to self, others or is gravely disabled, he will be released and continue care in the community.

RedTop · ‎09-01-2010

@shoppinggirl12,

I am very sorry for this very concerning situation with your son. Please be aware that your son is most likely upset with you for the way you have reacted to his issues.

His admission to a psych facility will result in a diagnosis and treatment plan, and he will have to learn to manage his health issues. Your son is an adult, and the treating facility, and anyone he comes in contact with will treat him as an adult.

Your sons health issue is going to be an eye opening experience into the world of behavioral medicine. I get the feeling you think he needs longer inpatient treatment, which is not always the way these types of episodes are handled. Your son has been monitored around the clock since his admission, and has received medication as prescribed. It seems highly likely his issues can be handled with medication and frequent monitoring.

Your son may walk out of the psych facility, take his medication, follow up with his doctors and never need full inpatient care again. On the other hand, he may not be mature enough to be a compliant patient, and may struggle for awhile before he sees the light with his medical condition. Whatever happens, the way you handle this situation with your sons mental health issue, will likely define your relationship from this step forward. As a mother, you will always care, and do your best to help your son, but you must step back, stop hovering, stop seeing him as your little boy, and urge him to be responsible for his health care.

Best wishes to you.