UPDATE - SON ADMITTED TO HOSPITAL - Page 3

qbetzforreal · ‎08-28-2010

@chrystaltree wrote:
Well, you certainly do make a lot of assumptions based on little to no information. You don't know what the diagnosis is because your son's doctor can't disclose that to you and you don't know if he had a "manic" episode. You don't know what he had or what's going on with him. So, you don't know if it's too soon to discharge him. You also don't know the conditions of his discharge. When he is dicharged, there will be a continuing treatment plan and therapy visits and perhaps medication and perhaps follow up with social worker. They aren't going to just send him off on his merry way. He's not a child, you aren't his guardian. If the doctors feel that he should be discharged. If they feel that it safe for him to be discharged and if there is a discharge plan in place; he will be discharged. He's going to need a support system and as his mother, they probably want to included you as part of that support system. You are calling it a "hospital court" and I don't really know why unless he was recently arrested and there are law enforcement issues. That doesn't seem to be the case. I believe they asked you to attend a planning session that will include his doctors, a social worker, a discharge planner, probably his girlfriend and you since you. That's not a "court".

There are hearing officers/judges who preside over mental health cases. In order to have someone involuntarily hospitalized requires a court hearing and a court order. It's held to determine to hold someone pass a 72hr hold.

qbetzforreal · ‎08-28-2010

@shoppinggirl12 wrote:
Well, I have to go, it was mandated by hospital. It is when you get someone commited, against their will. You then have to tell them what you observed. They said he can get out, as long as doctor agrees, he can go to outpatient care. But that is only good if you DO it.

He is still very mad at me. I don't understand it. It really makes me sad. He has access to a phone, and never called me.

He's upset because you and your husband got him help and he probably didn't think anything was wrong. The girlfriend is probably an enabler. She was with him and did and said nothing. Go to the hearing as you're his next of kin. You and your husband did the right thing. @shoppinggirl12

FuzzyFace · ‎03-15-2010

Can you have cimitted to a mental health facility against his will? Because it seems to me that YOU could be in danger if he's on the loose.

qbetzforreal · ‎08-28-2010

@FuzzyFace wrote:
Can you have cimitted to a mental health facility against his will? Because it seems to me that YOU could be in danger if he's on the loose.

Only the Court can commit someone involuntary.

GCR18 · ‎07-03-2013

Go to the hospital court appointment. You should get the full story of what's going on. My sister ended up in the hospital last year and there was a hospital court session. The hospital setup a conservator hearing with the probate judge. I knew about it from the hospital social worker and received an invitation from the court.

stevieb · ‎03-10-2010

@shoppinggirl12 You can only do what you can do. More than any other form of a significant mental illness, those with disorders along the bipolar spectrum are known for having the least insight into their situations. It can make their treatment very difficult, as they are often non-compliant with outpatient treatment and medication regimens. I'm not sure I understand the hospital court concept. You took him to the ER, but they admitted him and transferred him, which ultimately means they felt he was in need of inpatient evaluation. Beyond any mandatory evaluation phase, it's difficult to force a facility to keep a patient against their choosing unless they're assessed as being a high risk.

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CelticCrafter · ‎03-09-2010

JMO, forcing someone into a treatment program isn't going to help. The person being treated is only doing it to appease others and get them off their backs. They will come out and go right back to what they were doing.

They have to make the decision that they need and want the help and do it on their own, under their own terms.

I've seen the forced treatment fail too many times.

Montana · ‎03-09-2010

In my opinion, parents should step in when an adult child is having mental problems. I could never stand by and watch my child self-destruct.

Natalie Cole, Britney Spears and Amanda Bynes are some adult children who got help from parents when they needed it.

shoppinggirl12 · ‎04-24-2018

UPDATE -

So we went to the court hearing at hospital today, the doctor recommonded he stay....up to 20 days, but they said it could be 2, 4, 7days etc. The doctor diagnosed him bi polar. My husband went in for hearing, son was still very combative. He kept saying he wants out of that place. Bottom line, they said he will be in there for UP to 20 days.

Well, his gifrlfriend just called me, screaming at me!! Said he is gonna hate me for keeping him in there, and that he already hates me!!!! She said she thought he was okay to be realesed today, and that staying in there is gonna make him worse, that everyone in there is looney and that he will never get better in that atmosphere!!

I am sitting here crying, don't know what to do!! We just went with the doctor recommendation and they are going to start giving him meds. today

Lapdog · ‎12-18-2012

@shoppinggirl12I am so very very sorry that you are having to go through this.

A life long friend of mine is bi-polar and a family member has worse. It s so hard to stay the course and be there for them when it gets very difficult.

I can't imagine the pain you are having for your child.

Put your shoulders back and stiffen your spine. Seek counseling yourself and pray if you do.

Those of us here are thinking of you and hoping our thoughts will give you some strength.