Too Many Years? - Page 7

River Song · ‎03-15-2010

To anyone contemplating contacting a previous love interest, you need to watch Dateline's "Losing Faith" episode. This is a cautionary tale about not contacting a love interest from your past.

Brief synopsis: Guy contacts his former girlfriend from 30 years ago via email and texts. He is divorced, his former girlfriend is married. They carry on an emotional affair but never meet in person. She manipulates and convinces him that her husband is abusive and is going to kill her. He is a retired soldier with PTSD and a brain injury. She puts the idea that her husband must be killed into his head and he ends up shooting and killing the husband in a drive by shooting. He sincerely thought he was saving his former girlfriend's life by killing the husband. The husband was not abusive and loved by everyone. The wife was the evil one in the scenario and planned the whole thing to get life insurance money. Both the wife and retired soldier ended up in jail for life.

Best to leave sleeping dogs lie and not romanticize the past.

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Othereeeen · ‎03-13-2010

@River Song

@Puzzle Piece

You beat me to it....I was going to suggest streaming last night's "20/20" episode on the same story ( why they BOTH made shows about the same crime, shown the same night....aren't there enough OTHER crimes that there could be two different topics?!?"

I think it was called "Happily Never After"...

To the OP: River Song gave the synopsis.

You can NOT go back....

Watch that show then get back to the forum!!!!

Snowpuppy · ‎03-09-2010

It wasn't until I came here I realized how paranoid some people are. 🙄

Puzzle Piece · ‎06-29-2010

@River Song I would never do what you shared. That gal deserved prison and so did the guy who was manipulated. Geez.

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qualitygal · ‎10-04-2010

Don't do it. No need now, esp. after all this time. It won't change, or make anything better, even if you're thinking along those lines. If he wasn't happy with your then decision, he won't be happy now. Just my opinion, for what that is worth.

Effie54 · ‎09-08-2010

@Puzzle Piece wrote:
@Love my grandkids My husband met up with him and they had words. That is how he ran him off., No, I'm not unhappy in my marriage or want attention.

Every young girl's heart is different. Things went the way they did due to my husband's meddling. I'm doing okay but wondered if there were just too many years gone by to get things in order. He did propose marriage. I still wish him the best.

What am I missing? If you cared that much for him and he proposed, then why did you let him go? I certainly wouldn't let anyone (current husband included) run some off by having words. There seems to be more to the story. Why would they have met in the first place??

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

Don't fool yourself. You made the choice and you chose your current husband. You have a case of "what if I'd chosen him". Whatever you had or didn't have with that guy is in the long ago distant past where it belongs. You want to waltz down memory lane, to resurrect old feelings but that's not going to happen. YOU ditched him, YOU hurt him and he moved on with his life. He probably found someone who loved him and wanted him.

SportyShorty07 · ‎04-15-2014

@Puzzle Piece I think that River Song was implying that just like in Dateline episodes, you could potentially be harmed by reaching out to your ex boyfriend rather than implying that you would have sinister intentions toward him. The Dateline episodes are really informative and scary- but they're true stories and really help bring the point home that trust can be broken, intentions can be cruel and its important to keep a guard up.

Puzzle Piece · ‎06-29-2010

@chrystaltree He never married or had children. I did move on and for the better I believe.

I was not so cruel as to DITCH HIM. Not my way of dealing with that guy.

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Sassycoco · ‎08-05-2023

@Puzzle Piece

I think what you're feeling is natural.
maybe your thinking..what if ?
Or possibly, closure.
I don't believe this is any reflection on your marriage
.Just my opinion
I believe it's never to late for an apology.
Possibly you feel badly because he never married....JMO
I would do what feels right to you....Life is too short !

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