Too Many Years? - Page 6

manny2 · ‎05-24-2010

You seem to be at a crossroad in your life @Puzzle Piece . Looking back is normal. Just don’t act on it. It’s better to try and find out why you are looking back rather than living in the now.

Memories are wonderful to visit. Just don’t stay there.

Puzzle Piece · ‎06-29-2010

@Love my grandkids My husband met up with him and they had words. That is how he ran him off., No, I'm not unhappy in my marriage or want attention.

Every young girl's heart is different. Things went the way they did due to my husband's meddling. I'm doing okay but wondered if there were just too many years gone by to get things in order. He did propose marriage. I still wish him the best.

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spumoni99 · ‎02-16-2019

If it was that important to him he should have spoken to you about how you feel instead of being scared away by your husband, who was then not a husband.

manny2 · ‎05-24-2010

@Puzzle Piece wrote:
@Love my grandkids My husband met up with him and they had words. That is how he ran him off., No, I'm not unhappy in my marriage or want attention.

Every young girl's heart is different. Things went the way they did due to my husband's meddling. I'm doing okay but wondered if there were just too many years gone by to get things in order. He did propose marriage. I still wish him the best.

It’s ok, we all wonder about past relationships at times. The what ifs? Unfortunately, what if only exists in our mind.

We romanticize and idealize people we haven’t seen. It’s easy to do. They aren’t part of the daily day-to-day struggles we all face.

Love my grandkids · ‎11-24-2013

@Puzzle Piece Got it. That wasn't clear in the original post. Glad you are happy in your marriage

Snowpuppy · ‎03-09-2010

Not to side track, but I've often wondered how exactly does one "fight for a relationship"?

The only ones I'm aware of have used some pretty low down, dirty dog tactics. It's never ended well even if the other party stays.

Venezia · ‎03-09-2010

I sometimes have fond memories of one or two guys I dated, but that's it.

I certainly wouldn't go looking for them, although I'd be delighted to catch up, if I ran into any of them.

I have a good marriage and a good life. No need to yearn for "yesterday".

"" A little learning is a dangerous thing."-Alexander Pope

Melzie · ‎08-01-2010

I was in a situation but in reverse. I was the one that was left behind and was deeply hurt. It took me years to get past it. Like you, his reason for trying to contact me was that we were closer to the end of our lives rather than the beginning and there were things he wanted to say to me. Sorry, it's 40 years too late! I have no interest in opening up an old wound just because someone who hurt me deeply 40 years ago can clear his conscience.

Also, have you considered how trying to contact him could affect his family or yours? Let sleeping dogs lie!

Carmie · ‎10-25-2010

@Puzzle Piece wrote:
@Love my grandkids My husband met up with him and they had words. That is how he ran him off., No, I'm not unhappy in my marriage or want attention.

Every young girl's heart is different. Things went the way they did due to my husband's meddling. I'm doing okay but wondered if there were just too many years gone by to get things in order. He did propose marriage. I still wish him the best.

When I was a teen, I dated two different guys at the same time. One was 6'8" and the other 5'9". I had a date with the taller guy and made plans to meet him at the swimming pool for a teen party.

My brother was also going to the party and he mentioned to the shorter fellow that we were going. My stupid brother invited the shorter guy to go with us and that guy drove all of us there. You needed to be a member of the pool to get in, but could go as a guest if invited. He was my brother's guest.

My older sister was going to drive us there, but was happy we got an offer so she didn't have to.

When we got there, I left my brother and the short guy to meet my date. It got uncomfortable with both guys there for me, so we left the pool party and walked to my date's house two blocks away.

Later, I had to go back to the pool area to meet my brother and get a ride home. Long story short, the guys got into a verbal fight with a few pushes back and forth.

My date left without them physically hurting each other ...their different sizes made me nervous.

The short guy was livid and angry with me. He accused me of cheating on him. I explained we were not exclusive and he was my brother's guest for the night, not mine.

To make a long story shorter. The tall guy never asked me out again. The shorter guy is my husband now. We have been married for over 50 years.

The other guy entered the military, has been married twice and divorced twice...once to a much older women and again to a much younger woman. He had three children.

A few years ago, he died from cancer, a single man.

I admit, I followed his life events. He was the one who got away.

I know I married the right person. The other guy and I wouldn't have lasted, but he was always in the back of my mind.

I know how you feel and where you are coming from. If a guy really loves you, he will fight for you no matter what, as I said in my previous post.

There we're also a few other incidents where my now husband would show up when I was on a date with somone else. (my brother was a snitch). He was determined and never gave up. He really loved me and still does.

Don't contact the other guy. He wasn't run off. He walked away of his own free will.