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[Mindy D]

Leave things as they are. Seeing this man could make your husband feel badly and could only stir up problems. 

[Puzzle Piece]

Thanks to all.  That guy did propose marriage many years ago.  It was my present husband who 'ran him off'.  He has his agenda.   I was always sorry that other guy was hurt.  I do have a good marriage and life.  We both are not the same people so I will do as most have shared and let sleeping dogs lie.  

[SportyShorty07]

@Puzzle Piece   You're making the right decision to not reach out and I'm glad that we could help you sort your thoughts out.  I wish you continued happiness in your marriage . Its natural to reminisce about former flames, especially around the holidays.  It took courage for you to write your post and ask for advice and I'm proud of you for coming to a decision about what to do. 

[katie1859]

Wow are you getting stroked by temptation and or regrets.
In reality, you have a husband. You have no business reaching regardless of the explanation. You're opening a door that should remain closed. Emotional affairs are equal to any other affair. You sound like you're making a call for attention.
A comfort. You think you're good but it's not. Now, if you share this with your husband and he says you can make amends then you can write. However, anything else has no integrity. Youre walking on glass.

[Kachina624]

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@Mersha wrote:

@DSD2   I lived one of those "not to be" things.

I dated a guy two years older than me through my teen years.  I was totally infatuated with.  He was my first love.

He broke up with me for a friend of mine.  I was totally devastated and it took quite awhile to work through it.

Fast forward decades later, he contacts me on Facebook.  He just finished his third marriage and I think he is looking for #4.

He sounded like a jerk and we had nothing in common.  If not for that break up I would not have the life I had of a job I loved, opportunity of living in DC and New York and a multitude of other things.

It was a case of thank God for unanswered prayers.

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@Mersha.  I call that fortuitous kind of situation "dodging the bullet".

[Kitty Galore]

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@sarahpanda wrote:

My 'first love, the one I thought I couldn't live without', dumped me for a cheerleader when I was 18 .  I was heartbroken - but I see him around this small town from timei to time, weighs about 350, missing teeth, can't hardly walk...whew, dodged a bullet there!

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@sarahpanda   I see an ex every so often around town ,  same thing overweight, lost his beautiful head of hair and looks very old

Also we didn't end on good terms ,  he turned out to be a bad person.  and I say -  Revenge  is best served cold ! like you wrote "dodged a bulletin ".  Funny how life turns out to be .    So glad we never ended up together ,  my husband is my favorite person ....He is who I aspire to be like ! 

[Kitty Galore]

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@Janey2 wrote:

You moved on 42 years ago. Leave well enough alone. In the end you might hurt your husband, not worth going down that road. AND put nothing in writing.

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@Janey2 Yes never , ever anything in writing ✍️ you can't deny or say you misunderstood lol !

[katie1859]

Forget Those Things That Lay Behind

[Kitty Galore]

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@cotton4me wrote:

From Tumblr:

There's an old adage, adopted from the title of a 1940 Thomas Wolfe novel, that states, “You can never go home again.” The saying is meant to infer how nostalgia causes us to view the past in an overly-positive light, and how humans tend to remember people and places from our upbringing in static terms.

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@cotton4me   It's true we do tend to look upon past people and places with only remembering the good and ignoring that there were bad times along with them too.    I feel somehow our minds trick  us to only remember the good times.

[Kitty Galore]

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@Cakers3 wrote:

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@LizzieInSRQ wrote:

@Puzzle Piece how would you feel if your husband did this?

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@LizzieInSRQ @Puzzle Piece  ^^^^THIS!

@Puzzle Piece  Is he married?  You are thinking he is owed an apology and for what?  You're just not that important and I say that in a supportive manner.

It's okay to think about a past love and I'm sure many of us have done so.

Are you thinking about him because you are currently unhappy? 

Let it be, though. Focus on today and be happy. 🙂

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@Cakers3   well put .