Among Friends

[KBEANS]

No, don't do it. It's much too late. An apology is not necessary now.

Getting on in age? He's not pining away he's tending to his arthritis. 😆

Stop rethinking the past, don't live there. He may see this as  signs of a declining mind. I would, after all that time.

[phoenixbrd]

Focus on the present.  Spend time appreciating your current husband. You create your life by your words, actions. and thoughts.  Participate in positive actions that supports peace and joy.   

[lynnie61]

@phoenixbrd   Perfectly stated.  

[Janey2]

You moved on 42 years ago. Leave well enough alone. In the end you might hurt your husband, not worth going down that road. AND put nothing in writing.

[cotton4me]

From Tumblr:

There's an old adage, adopted from the title of a 1940 Thomas Wolfe novel, that states, “You can never go home again.” The saying is meant to infer how nostalgia causes us to view the past in an overly-positive light, and how humans tend to remember people and places from our upbringing in static terms.

[threecees]

Remember him as you have when you were younger.

I would not bother him.

[Cakers3]

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@LizzieInSRQ wrote:

@Puzzle Piece how would you feel if your husband did this?

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@LizzieInSRQ @Puzzle Piece  ^^^^THIS!

@Puzzle Piece  Is he married?  You are thinking he is owed an apology and for what?  You're just not that important and I say that in a supportive manner.

It's okay to think about a past love and I'm sure many of us have done so.

Are you thinking about him because you are currently unhappy? 

Let it be, though. Focus on today and be happy. 🙂

[Effie54]

I don't understand.... how do you know he would've been your husband? And why would you let someone run him off? If I thought he was marriage material, I certainly wouldn't let anyone tell me who I could have a friendship with or not, unless you were married to your husband at that time. In reality, that ship has sailed. 

[manny2]

Life can sometimes become stagnant and mundane. Some call it normal. With social media we can connect to the past in an instant.

I had a great love when I was 21 years old. He was 10 years older. He always worried about the age difference, so I think that was a big part of the breakup.

I would never try to reconnect, because he is married. What I do know is if I did want to reconnect it would be the 21-year-old and the 31-year-old.

The problem is we aren’t those people anymore. It’s a slippery slope. Just treasure the memories.

[Kitty Galore]

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@Love my grandkids wrote:

@Puzzle Piece The past is the past. Let sleeping dogs lie. You may be romanticizing what you think you remember.

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@Love my grandkids  that is something that happens ,  you look back and remember all those romantic times or that you think you remember .  I agree 😏