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[Puzzle Piece]

It's been 42 years.  I still think of a guy that would have been my husband except for the fact that my present husband had me run him off.  I liked that guy and we got along fine.  I've thought about him through the years.  I owed him an explanation and maybe an apology.  We are both getting on in our years and he probably wouldn't remember me but I'd like to see him and speak to him - possibly for the last time.  He lives 4 hours away and I cannot drive to see him.  I guess I could write him a letter but I wouldn't want to annnoy him as he was not happy for me not choosing him.  

Any thoughts?  

[Mersha]

It has been my experience to leave the past in the past.

[Goodie2shoes]

Are you not happly married?  If you are thinking about a guy from 42 yrs ago, is it worth it ? JMO. 

[Love my grandkids]

@Puzzle Piece The past is the past. Let sleeping dogs lie. You may be romanticizing what you think you remember.

[Desertdi]

NOT a good idea...especially if you are still married.     

A high school boyfriend got my phone number from my MOTHER...and (after 40 years) he began calling me...numerous times a day...professing his undying "love".

Told me he was coming (2000 miles) to VISIT ME.    I was traumatized!

[Mersha]

@Desertdi   Did you finally convince him not to come and see you?

[Kachina624]

@Desertdi.  Invite him to visit you in Phoenix in the summertime.  That'll get rid of him!

[San Antonio Gal]

 @Puzzle Piece  - You said he probaby wouldn't remember you so you certainly don't owe him an explanation or apology.  I don't see the point of contacting him other than to tickle your fancy.

[DSD2]

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@Love my grandkids wrote:

@Puzzle Piece The past is the past. Let sleeping dogs lie. You may be romanticizing what you think you remember.

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@Puzzle Piece I think @Love my grandkids is providing sound advice.

It's human nature to wonder about the past and ruminate on what might have been. However, there usually is a reason when people don't end up together. Sometimes, things were just not meant to be.

[Mersha]

@DSD2   I lived one of those "not to be" things.

I dated a guy two years older than me through my teen years.  I was totally infatuated with.  He was my first love.

He broke up with me for a friend of mine.  I was totally devastated and it took quite awhile to work through it.

Fast forward decades later, he contacts me on Facebook.  He just finished his third marriage and I think he is looking for #4.

He sounded like a jerk and we had nothing in common.  If not for that break up I would not have the life I had of a job I loved, opportunity of living in DC and New York and a multitude of other things.

It was a case of thank God for unanswered prayers.