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[Laura14]

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@GCR18wrote:

The article leaves a lot of questions.  It sounds like the students went to the media versus the school board or administration.  It feels like they were looking for their 15 minutes of fame.  I bet they could find affordable dresses that don't have cleavage or thighs showing.  

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I've been a broken record about this for the past month. 

The younger generation has social media down to a tee.  If they don't like something or someone, they trend it for media attention and then embarrass the adults or leaders into backing down and giving them what they want. 

It's a vitual temper tantrum and they do it exquisitely.  It's a shame most companies and administration don't have the guts yet to ride out the "bad" publicity and hold firm to "our company, our event, our rules, etc.  Move along for other entertainment, other service, etc....

[Laura14]

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@steviebwrote:

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@Laura14wrote:

I am so over the younger generation deciding they don't like the rules anymore.  If you don't care for them, stay home.  Or better yet, scratch up your own money to have your own prom which is extremely expensive and not totally covered in the prom ticket price. 

Such a shame these kids haven't heard "No" enough in their lives and they should have by the time prom rolls around.  

When someone invites me to a party, I don't start criticizing the host's requests.  I choose to go or not go and conduct myself appropriately if I do.  

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I agree, though I'd suggest it isn't just the younger generation who have decided rules no longer apply to them... There has always been and will always be a cadre who thinks they're 'special', though this mentality might be more rampant now and more pronounced among younger people... Fully agree that it seems many of today's young people haven't heard 'no' enough and many haven't had enough limits set... And while I also agree about how best to handle party invitations, I'm not sure the prom is in the same league... It's supposed to be for the kids and I'm not sure the school is actually issuing the invitation... Still, overall, I think you make valid points... @Laura14... This principal might have had better luck had she involved a group of the students in the decision making, if she didn't do so. There might have been a bit more buy-in if they'd had even cursory input...

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@stevieb  Disagree.  Since when do we allow kids to be involved in adult decisions especially when it's not their wallet paying for it?  Have a PARENT committee involved in the decision on dress code and the kids can do whatever they want outside of the school's event.  

[bonnielu]

You  are talking to a gal who is old enough to remember we could not even wear pants to class (high school).  

Personally I think the prom is special and  those who go are stuck with whatever they wore... forever... since there will be pictures taken.  

[stevieb]

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@Laura14wrote:

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@steviebwrote:

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@Laura14wrote:

I am so over the younger generation deciding they don't like the rules anymore.  If you don't care for them, stay home.  Or better yet, scratch up your own money to have your own prom which is extremely expensive and not totally covered in the prom ticket price. 

Such a shame these kids haven't heard "No" enough in their lives and they should have by the time prom rolls around.  

When someone invites me to a party, I don't start criticizing the host's requests.  I choose to go or not go and conduct myself appropriately if I do.  

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I agree, though I'd suggest it isn't just the younger generation who have decided rules no longer apply to them... There has always been and will always be a cadre who thinks they're 'special', though this mentality might be more rampant now and more pronounced among younger people... Fully agree that it seems many of today's young people haven't heard 'no' enough and many haven't had enough limits set... And while I also agree about how best to handle party invitations, I'm not sure the prom is in the same league... It's supposed to be for the kids and I'm not sure the school is actually issuing the invitation... Still, overall, I think you make valid points... @Laura14... This principal might have had better luck had she involved a group of the students in the decision making, if she didn't do so. There might have been a bit more buy-in if they'd had even cursory input...

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@stevieb  Disagree.  Since when do we allow kids to be involved in adult decisions especially when it's not their wallet paying for it?  Have a PARENT committee involved in the decision on dress code and the kids can do whatever they want outside of the school's event.  

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Then yes @Laura14 we do disagree... The prom is not for parents or school administrators, it's for the students and while I don't think they get the last word, I do think they should have input into an event staged for their enjoyment... Moreover, as noted, there might be more buy-in if they felt they at least had a voice in planning the event... The administration can set the ground rules, but to not involve the participants in the planning just isn't smart management... It's not, after all, like the principal is giving a party at her home for her friends... Then, she gets to call all the shots...

[Tuppermore]

I think this trend started long ago and is now the norm from what I see of various prom pictures in a couple of home town newspapers that I read.  My youngest daughter is 36.  When she was 2, I went to an upscale department store to purchase a swimming suit for her to wear when I took her older siblings to the public pool.  You can't imagine my shock at some of the choices.  One in particular was a take off on a Playboy bunny suit!!! I have never forgotten that and refused to go into that store again.  To me, it is no wonder that girls dress in a provocative manner today.  If there is a market for those kind of clothes, retailers will sell them. 

Society in general has allowed this to happen by spending money to support this style of clothing.  I may be old fashioned, but I always wanted my daughters to respect themselves, be self-confident,  and know that they have value based on who they are.

[kaydee50]

I was shocked when a friend of mine showed me a picture of her granddaughter at her prom.  Her dress was very low cut and the hemline short.  Her date looked stunned.  And this girl goes to a Catholic high school.  Good grief!

[CAcableGirl2]

@Laura14  I agree.  What ever happened to "those are the rules" and if you want to participate FOLLOW THE RULES. 

I am so over everyone protesting anything that doesn't agree with them.  Young adults need to learn that sometimes they need to accept what they don't always agree with.  If they can't deal with conflict and/or things not going their way all the times, they are going to have quite a challenge to succeed in life.....and good luck holding a job. 

"Let's just agree to disagree" without making a huge deal out of everything. 

[RainyDayGal]

What's sad, is it's the mothers that are thinking this is acceptable.  So when these girls grow up and have girls of their own, they will probably think it's acceptable for them to wear string bikinis to their prom.

[sidsmom]

Every

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Single

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Year

...this topic is in the news. 

Of all the High School news we have currently,

this is what gets people/parents riled up?

[Carmie]

@stevieb  In my area, the school board sets the rules and dress code for the prom, not the principal.  The kids are welcome to attend the school board meetings if they wish.

They never attend unless they want to protest something. Where are they when decisions are being made?

The dress code is listed on the schools website and in the school handbook.  It isn’t a surprise when it is close to prom time what the requirements are. They are there to read each September at the beginning of the school year.

Every year like clock work, this subject comes up right before prom or when someone gets sent home from prom.

If the kids want a voice, they can’t wait until the last minute and expect to be heard. it’s too late then.