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What is it?

[dex]

I think those girls are young,beautiful and don’t need to show all of their stuff to get attention.I would think they have years ahead to dress like a woman and at this point in their life it is too soon.They don’t have the maturity to protect themselves from predators.

[Laura14]

I am so over the younger generation deciding they don't like the rules anymore.  If you don't care for them, stay home.  Or better yet, scratch up your own money to have your own prom which is extremely expensive and not totally covered in the prom ticket price. 

Such a shame these kids haven't heard "No" enough in their lives and they should have by the time prom rolls around.  

When someone invites me to a party, I don't start criticizing the host's requests.  I choose to go or not go and conduct myself appropriately if I do.  

[Kitlynn]

I think both parents and students know what is appropriate for a High School prom and they should shop accordingly. There is plenty of time for these young women to dress with showing cleavage, thigh high slits and backless clothing if they choose to do so. High School is not the place for that in my opinion. It seems like the children today are all trying to look like they are a lot older than they are and they should just enjoy being High School students. Why does everything that is a well loved tradition these days get turned into a controversial issue. I think it is high time parents started teaching their children to have morals and values along with common sense. Now I realize I am old school and will get a lot of negativity with these comments but it is just how I feel and my personal opinion.

[Laura14]

@Kitlynn  You're not old school.  You're right.  

I thank heaven I had a grandmother who sat me down when puberty hit and loved me enough to tell me to act like a lady, watch my drinks, stay with a group and dress appropriately or I was going to find myself in a lot of trouble. 

To teach that to a young girl today is somehow an eggregious affront against feminism which is sad and, in my opinion, dangerous to withhold.

[stevieb]

It's not just 'today's' teens, teenagers, especially girls, as a group, have always wanted to dress and use makeup beyond their years... It's just that today's fashion norms, overall, are a good bit less modest than in days gone by. Normally, I'd side with the students because dress codes are sometimes sort of autocratic and capricious but I do agree there's plenty of time later in life to tart if up if they so choose... My concern would be with what other restrictions are being placed on students wanting to attend the prom...

[stevieb]

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@Laura14wrote:

You're not old school.  You're right.  

I thank heaven I had a grandmother who sat me down when puberty hit and loved me enough to tell me to act like a lady, watch my drinks, stay with a group and dress appropriately or I was going to find myself in a lot of trouble. 

To teach that to a young girl today is somehow an eggregious affront against feminism which is sad and, in my opinion, dangerous to withhold.

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Excuse me @Laura14 but I've seen the smut you post over on the soap forums... Who you trying to kid...

 

[GCR18]

The article leaves a lot of questions.  It sounds like the students went to the media versus the school board or administration.  It feels like they were looking for their 15 minutes of fame.  I bet they could find affordable dresses that don't have cleavage or thighs showing.  

[stevieb]

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@Laura14wrote:

I am so over the younger generation deciding they don't like the rules anymore.  If you don't care for them, stay home.  Or better yet, scratch up your own money to have your own prom which is extremely expensive and not totally covered in the prom ticket price. 

Such a shame these kids haven't heard "No" enough in their lives and they should have by the time prom rolls around.  

When someone invites me to a party, I don't start criticizing the host's requests.  I choose to go or not go and conduct myself appropriately if I do.  

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I agree, though I'd suggest it isn't just the younger generation who have decided rules no longer apply to them... There has always been and will always be a cadre who thinks they're 'special', though this mentality might be more rampant now and more pronounced among younger people... Fully agree that it seems many of today's young people haven't heard 'no' enough and many haven't had enough limits set... And while I also agree about how best to handle party invitations, I'm not sure the prom is in the same league... It's supposed to be for the kids and I'm not sure the school is actually issuing the invitation... Still, overall, I think you make valid points... @Laura14... This principal might have had better luck had she involved a group of the students in the decision making, if she didn't do so. There might have been a bit more buy-in if they'd had even cursory input...

[shopperqvc]

A few years ago the girl next door was going to her prom. There were several of the boys out front of the house, all of them wearing black tuxes with black shirts and ties. Then the girls came out of the house all wearing black gowns. The gowns were nice, but everyone was in black. Each of the girls also had black lip stick and black nail polish. I don't know what their theme for prom was, but it looked like a family reunion for the Addams Family. I never asked if the kids chose the idea, or if it came from the school.