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[CalminHeart]

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@Goldengate8361 wrote:

It's ok to ask her for it; she probably forgot. No, she should not have asked to borrow money from you, but it's truly not that big of a deal. She is, after all, giving you an opportunity to earn a paycheck. She's doing far more for you. I suggest lightening up.

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I'm not sure I agree that she's doing far more for OP.... unless the boss is also the owner and only decision maker at the company.  Maybe I misread your comment but no employer owns an employee.  been there, done that, will never do it again.

[CalminHeart]

If she asks again, just say no.  Mush it up with, the only extra money I have is for a prescription I have to buy tonight.  

[151949]

When I loan someone a small amount of money, I assume it was a gift and I'll never see it again.People who are regularly need to borrow money are typically irresponsible by nature so they don't pay back.As others have said - next time just don't have the money to loan.

[kelshar]

No, your boss should NEVER have asked you for money. I wouldn't ask for it back. Next time she asks you for money, just say no. You don't even need to owe an explanation.

[Bibione]

I have a similar situation and I didn't ask for the money back.Months ago one of my managers loved my hair color so I offered to get her the Herbatint from Vitacost as a present.Later she asked me to buy 2 sets and she paid me back a few days later.Last May she needed 2 more for a total of about 18.oo dollars.I went to Italy for 6 weeks and forgot to ask for the money.She probably forgot as well.

If she asks me to buy more Herbatint I wll ask for the money back.I usually tell her i will be gone for a long time and ask her if she needs more.This time I didn't say anything.

[Miranda1550]

@Frosted Cake

Ask her for the money, or this will be her method of operation.   Ask nicely, "Oh, I forgot

to go to the bank".  Old saying, neither a borrower or a lender be

[muttmom]

If you need the $5 ask her for it, otherwise file it under LESSON LEARNED.

[chickenbutt]

I kind of wish you could ask for it, but I understand if you can't.  If that remains the case, I would agree with Muttmom that you'll just have to write it off as a loss and a lesson learned.

Could it be that she has totally forgotten about it?  Granted, that's kind of lame, in and of itself, but there could be a chance that she did intend to pay you back but got busy and it slipped her mind entirely.

If I have a responsibility to another, I do whatever it takes to make sure I don't fall down on that responsibility.  However, I find that in my life most others don't seem to have that same sensibility.  It's frustrating, for sure, but I have to let it go if it is possible.  That doesn't stop me from having some negative feelings toward those people, though.

[Noel7]

Of course she never should have asked you, but she should have paid you back at least by the next day.

My parents taught me never to loan money if I wasn't prepared to just let it go because so many people never paid it back.  I always followed that advice.

If it happens again, you just say something like, "Sorry, I don't carry enough on me to do that."

[Shop Till you Drop]

I feel for you, and I am in way deeper than 5.00 with my boss.  She has told me it is part of my job to get her lunch each day she is in the office.  So at some point between 11:30 and 1:10 (cafe closes at 1:15) she drops money on my desk.  I am basically held hostage during those hours  to be ready to get her lunch.  This is the kicker she never gives me enough money, so I have to take my wallet to make up the change part.  Her lunch is 10.89 each day, she wants the same thing, but only gives me 10.00.  So believe me that adds up.  Then on the fun days she calls me to say she cant make it back to her desk to go get her lunch, I then pay out of my pocket and she might or might not remember to pay me back.  This is my own fault for allowing it to happen, but it is a terribly horrible situation.  This has been going on for 4 years, she owes me alot of money and she makes way, way over a 6 figure salary.