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[shoppinggirl12]

Update on my son - he is still in the hospital.  They gave him a bi-polar diagnosis, and he has been in there 10 days so far.  He is still a little bit agitated, when I talk to him. 

They think he can still be in there at least a few more days, they just switched his meds to Abilify, and they said they have to see how it works, they can't just release him, they need time to see how he does.  He seems a little more calm on this drug.

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But he gets agitated, because he said he is sick of being in this place, and everyone is much worse shape than he is, and fights break out, and people are in his face.

I keep telling him, that he will be released soon, but he can't stand it in there.

Stress is killing me,

[Group 5 minus 1]

Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

[tweets12]

Stay strong for your son.  Have had mental illness in my family and similar situations.  It will get better once they hit the right medication and that takes time.  God bless you and hang in there.

[MickD]

@shoppinggirl12. I'm sorry about the stress, but he is being treated, so that's good.  How old is your son?  He has to do the work; go to groups, be compliant; and wait for the abilify to kick in.  Don't let him manipulate you and make you feel guilty.

[OKPrincess]

I feel your pain but you must take care of you too, and he must stay on his meds. He’s at the best place for him and the doctors will help him. I’ve been in your shoes. 🙏🏻🙏🏻 Thanks for the update.

[AuntG]

At least he is talking to you and getting help. I hope your stress level decreases. If he refused to see you, that would be very stressful.

[Annabellethecat66]

Everyone is praying for you and your son.  Please know I come from a family of people (several) who were diagnosed with depression.

A dear friend's daughter (20) was diagnosed with something similar several years ago.  It has been up and down for her and her daughter.

However, I am happy to tell you her daughter is doing well.  She's functioning in society and has a boyfriend who is kind, thoughtful and understanding of her depression.

It hasn't been an easy journey to get here for her (we're close so she talks to me).  There will be days when she might pause (in her stride to achieve a medium) but she said she feels good and knows in the end her daughter will be happy.

I think she understands that's it's important to be able to look to the future.  We are all lucky that we live in a time where there are many treatments for depression and bi-polar diagnosis's....

If one thing doesn't work, there are many other options.  I wish there'd been something like that when I was growing up and lived with an Aunt who suffered with a terrible bi-polar disorder.  We all suffered.

Again, please don't forget to take care of yourself.  You can't help anyone if you aren't in a healthy state.

Please let us know how you are doing.

[LTT1]

@shoppinggirl12

I’m so sorry this has to be.

if anybody ever wants to get to me, all it takes is to lash out at my child! Aren’t we moms programmed this way? 

Whatever It is that they feel, we feel it too as if it is our bodies/minds being affected.

Hang in there. You have him cornered in a safe situation. Sounds as if maybe he is coming around to realize that you want the best for him.

You want the meds completely settled before he heads for home.💗💗💗 Thinking of you.

[shoppinggirl12]

@Annaabellthecat - thank you, it is good to other families go thru this, that I am not alone.  I don't know much about bipolar, I know a few people on here have said it runs in their families. 

I would love to talk more at length about this, I feel like talking helps me understand, and it is less scary.

[Love my grandkids]

@shoppinggirl12 Ask the hospital if they have a support group you can attend. I think you'd find it very helpful. Best of luck.