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[WSfan]

Mememe-Have a feeling that there will be a house warming party before the baby shower. I heard that they just bought a house. I think mommy and daddy are helping them.

[Melania]

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@WSfan wrote:

OK, sort of on the same note here......niece had a destination wedding in another state. All guests attending had to drive the almost 200 miles one way, and pay for a hotel room for at least one night's stay, wedding gift, gas to and from, and breakfast the following day. Thank you card arrives, at least one month after the wedding, (honeymoon at a later date) and it is a pre-printed thank you note with photos from the wedding saying something to the effect of "Thanks for celebrating our day with us.", and the bride and groom's name printed on it.  No personal message, no thanks for the gift, no signature. Now I know I should be appreciative that I even received a thank you, but we had to spend money getting to and from the location, renting a room to sleep and food the following day, plus someone to take care of our pets for the time we were gone. I should think that the least I could receive is a handwritten thank you for their gift. As someone said, etiquette is going out the window,and that's not a good thing. Comments,anyone? I'd love to hear them.

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Had to?

I will never understand those that get an invite and then everything is a complaint.

News Flash: Don't go and then there will benothing to complain about...simple.

I'm still trying to get an answer with 8 lazy fools who received and invite for my child's wedding and think they don't have to bother. The RSVP date was 7/24.

How about that? The people planning a wedding is no easy task and they wanted you there...sheesh.

And this is all because you didn't get the exact thank you note you thought they should send? 

Sorry but I have no sympathy for any of it as I am trying to makes this day as stress free for my child and I don't want complainers there. 

But at least give us the courtesy of responding. 

Where's the etiquette we deserve?

[lovesrecess]

My daughters have many friends who are getting married in the next few months...and they all expect invitees to RSVP online....they don't even send an RSVP envelope or card. Times have changed but not for the better IMO.

i actually was invited to a wedding when a friend messaged me on FB!  Everything seems to be much less personal now and It's a shame....we are missing something very important...personal connections.

[KarenQVC]

@Melania  Just let the late folks know you can't accommodate them---send them a little note today and get it out of the way.

In truth, a lot of my friends are sick of weddings.  They have become such productions.  They often go just to avoid the hassle of not going.

[WSfan]

Melania: Apparently you have a knot in your knickers dealing with your situation, but don't take it out on me. This was our niece, my SIL's daughter, my husband's godchild, so yes, we felt like we HAD to attend. Not complaining about EVERYTHING, just the lack of disregard for etiquette nowadays. A written thank you note is proper, just as it is responding to an invitation by the date indicated. In your case, for heaven's sake, call the people up and see if they're coming. Maybe they misplaced the response card, or have something going on in their lives right now and forgot. I know that you may think so, but the world does not revolve around your child's wedding. If they can't give you a definite answer, tell them that you will take that as a 'no'.

[Mominohio]

There is an upcoming wedding in our family and they just expect people to RSVP to their wedding facebook page. 

I didn't even know they had one, and I don't do Facebook. I know a lot of people (of all ages) don't do FB, so if that is your avenue of announcing and RSVP, many people you thought would attend won't, because they won't have the particulars.

Edited to add:

We also missed a wedding this summer because we received a save the date announcement, but never an invitation. The save the date had general information about the date, but no time or location. We found out after the fact that whoever was doing invitations missed several people.