RSVP - Page 2

Abrowneyegirl · ‎03-15-2010

@chrystaltree wrote:
Failing to put the address on the rsvp envelope makes no sense at all and borders on being stupid. I think people who do that don't really understand the rsvp process. I doubt that it's to force people to go online. If that were the case, they would just ommit the envelope and provide the link to rsvp. Which happened to me once for a bridal shower. it was one of those big, over the top, co-ed showers that is as big as the wedding. There was an rsvp card with the link to rsvp online.

Good point- why even enclose the rsvp card at all???

I will add for the one wedding there is VERY little information on the invitation. Basically it is up to the invitee to go online to the bride/groom website look up addresses and locations for the reception etc. I feel very bad for people without Internet access.

Nataliesgramma · ‎03-28-2015

Sometimes I don't think technology is a good thing......and manners and good taste go out the window....

Imadickens · ‎06-15-2016

Please, tell me if its just me...I attended the wedding shower for future dil of a close friend. When I arrived I was handed an envelope to address for my thank you note! I felt this was in very poor taste and did not write on to see if she'd thank me anyway! Even tho my gift was very well liked by all, I got no note!

My dd and ds recently married. I insisted they write and address all their notes and quickly! My wedding gift thank you notes were mailed before I went on my honeymoon! (It used to be correct to give the gifts before the wedding day)

I am offended that the bride wouldn't check her notes against the gifts just to be sure! I would have! If the hostesses wished to save the bride work, THEY could have provided the addresses of the invitees with the list kept of who gave what. Was I wrong to be offended, or next time should I also take a stamp?

P.s. These people are children of doctors not uneducated people and should know better! Oh, I never got a note for the Waterford wedding gift either!

Never underestimate the power of kindness.

gacat123 · ‎09-10-2010

Vent Away! Along these same lines I am getting tired of sending a nice GIFT and getting no acknowledgement or thank you note. I even include my EMAIL address on the enclosed card with the gift. This includes all sorts of gifts not just wedding gifts. So Good Luck getting a thank you note these days!

What has happend to good manners?

I taught my 27yo son when he was very young that a thank you note, handwritten is always appropriate if someone goes to the trouble to give him a present. He is amazed when he gets a thank you note in the mail, it is that unusual these days.

CAT

Lipstickdiva · ‎03-10-2010

I wonder if this was a total oversight on none of the RSVP envelopes being addressed? I don't know how it could be but how could they not know they were supposed to address them?

@Imadickens, I detest having to write out my own envelope for a thank you and generally, I don't. I refuse to fill them out and just move the basket along, etc.

I recently attended a shower and one of the mothers throwing the shower (who is 60, not a young girl), said something about having everyone address an envelope for a thank you. Then she commented to me that she knew I hated that. I told her yes I did, I thought it was the height of tacky. You expect people to spend their time and money going out and buying a gift, spending a good portion of their Sunday afternoon attending the shower, many of them only have 2 days off and they are spending 1 for your kid, and then your child can't be bothered to fill out envelopes to send out a thank-you?

Imadickens · ‎06-15-2016

I'm so glad it wasn't just me! You made my day☺️

Never underestimate the power of kindness.

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

@Imadickens wrote:
Please, tell me if its just me...I attended the wedding shower for future dil of a close friend. When I arrived I was handed an envelope to address for my thank you note! I felt this was in very poor taste and did not write on to see if she'd thank me anyway! Even tho my gift was very well liked by all, I got no note!

My dd and ds recently married. I insisted they write and address all their notes and quickly! My wedding gift thank you notes were mailed before I went on my honeymoon! (It used to be correct to give the gifts before the wedding day)

I am offended that the bride wouldn't check her notes against the gifts just to be sure! I would have! If the hostesses wished to save the bride work, THEY could have provided the addresses of the invitees with the list kept of who gave what. Was I wrong to be offended, or next time should I also take a stamp?

P.s. These people are children of doctors not uneducated people and should know better! Oh, I never got a note for the Waterford wedding gift either!

Well, you didn't address the envelope so you have no basis to complain that you did not receive a thank you. And you shouldn't have expected one. I agree handling the thank you situation like that was crass but it's the way the chose to handle it. And at least people (those who addressed the envelope) did get a thank you note.

Starpolisher · ‎03-10-2010

@chrystaltree wrote:
@Imadickens wrote:
Please, tell me if its just me...I attended the wedding shower for future dil of a close friend. When I arrived I was handed an envelope to address for my thank you note! I felt this was in very poor taste and did not write on to see if she'd thank me anyway! Even tho my gift was very well liked by all, I got no note!

My dd and ds recently married. I insisted they write and address all their notes and quickly! My wedding gift thank you notes were mailed before I went on my honeymoon! (It used to be correct to give the gifts before the wedding day)

I am offended that the bride wouldn't check her notes against the gifts just to be sure! I would have! If the hostesses wished to save the bride work, THEY could have provided the addresses of the invitees with the list kept of who gave what. Was I wrong to be offended, or next time should I also take a stamp?

P.s. These people are children of doctors not uneducated people and should know better! Oh, I never got a note for the Waterford wedding gift either!

Well, you didn't address the envelope so you have no basis to complain that you did not receive a thank you. And you shouldn't have expected one. I agree handling the thank you situation like that was crass but it's the way the chose to handle it. And at least people (those who addressed the envelope) did get a thank you note.

I agree with @Imadickens and others who think a thank you should come from the recipient of the gift. I also think the bride, mother to be, etc. should check their notes against the gifts and send a thank you whether or not I filled out an envelope. If I can spend my time and money on you, it's the least you can do! Even if it is not hand written except for the signature. Or written with the same standard line for everyone..." thank you for your generous gift...etc"... It should be their time and stamp. My addressing my own envelope and my stamp in my opinion is tacky, lazy and cheap! It will surely be the last gift you ever get from me!

"Kindness is like snow ~It beautifies everything it covers"
-Kahlil Gibran

WSfan · ‎03-09-2010

OK, sort of on the same note here......niece had a destination wedding in another state. All guests attending had to drive the almost 200 miles one way, and pay for a hotel room for at least one night's stay, wedding gift, gas to and from, and breakfast the following day. Thank you card arrives, at least one month after the wedding, (honeymoon at a later date) and it is a pre-printed thank you note with photos from the wedding saying something to the effect of "Thanks for celebrating our day with us.", and the bride and groom's name printed on it. No personal message, no thanks for the gift, no signature. Now I know I should be appreciative that I even received a thank you, but we had to spend money getting to and from the location, renting a room to sleep and food the following day, plus someone to take care of our pets for the time we were gone. I should think that the least I could receive is a handwritten thank you for their gift. As someone said, etiquette is going out the window,and that's not a good thing. Comments,anyone? I'd love to hear them.

Abrowneyegirl · ‎03-15-2010

@WSfan wrote:
OK, sort of on the same note here......niece had a destination wedding in another state. All guests attending had to drive the almost 200 miles one way, and pay for a hotel room for at least one night's stay, wedding gift, gas to and from, and breakfast the following day. Thank you card arrives, at least one month after the wedding, (honeymoon at a later date) and it is a pre-printed thank you note with photos from the wedding saying something to the effect of "Thanks for celebrating our day with us.", and the bride and groom's name printed on it. No personal message, no thanks for the gift, no signature. Now I know I should be appreciative that I even received a thank you, but we had to spend money getting to and from the location, renting a room to sleep and food the following day, plus someone to take care of our pets for the time we were gone. I should think that the least I could receive is a handwritten thank you for their gift. As someone said, etiquette is going out the window,and that's not a good thing. Comments,anyone? I'd love to hear them.

I have to say the first time I got one of these 'thank you' photo copy mass mailings my jaw dropped! I took one look at it and threw it in the trash.

I was "busy" for their baby showers.