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[Abrowneyegirl]

I do not know why this bothers me, but it does.......

When I receive a wedding invite, I like to send back the RSVP right away before it gets lost, I forget or lose it.

The last 2 invites we received had NO return address on the RSVP envelope or postage!!!!!!! Grrrrr

Now I have to find out to whom I send the RSVP to, is it the Bride, Groom, Parents, Maid/Matron of Honor.....?

I got one VM back, send it to "XYZ".  Thank you, but I need XYZ address.......Grrrrr

I had a young co-worker tell me that failure to put address/postage on RSVP's is to force the guests into wedding website to RSVP online.    Grrrrrr

I do not know why this irks me but it does.

Sorry, had to get that off my chest.

thank you

[Carmie]

OMG!  That is so wrong not too send an addressed return envelope with postage so that guests can RSVP.

Where are the manners and wedding etiquette?

I would be tempted to just ignore the invite altogether and just toss it out.

 I once received an invite where because of an oversight, I never received the RSVP card.  The MOB called me to see if we were attending because they didn't receive our reply.  We were not aware that we were supposed to RSVP.  Maybe your invite was missing the addressed card with postage due to an oversight ???

[athenian]

For years invitees were expected to RSVP by writing a response on their own social stationary and mailing it themselves to the return address on the invitation.  My mother and her friends were insulted when response cards first started to appear in invitations because they thought it implied they didn't know the correct form for RSVP.  

[Starpolisher]

The last wedding invite I received had no postage either. It bothered me also!

One thing I did like about the RSVP though. It said something like " a reservation has been made for ____ people to attend."  The blank had the number of people and you checked yes or no for attending.  I wish I had known about this wording for my son's wedding and my mom's 85th birthday party. Both those invites said number attending. Well, you invite Mr. and Mrs.(2) and they RSVP 3,4,5 etc. Even after I made calls explaining only the people addressed on the envelope were invited I still had one couple bring an extra family member to my moms party. They had only responded for the 2 invited. Geesh! What's wrong with people!  Is a free meal really that important! 

[Abrowneyegirl]

@Carmie That was my first thought, it was an over-sight.  Unfortunitly it was not, none of the envolpes were addressed or stamped..... sigh

@athenian This made me smile.  My have times changed.  

[Abrowneyegirl]

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@Starpolisher wrote:

The last wedding invite I received had no postage either. It bothered me also!

One thing I did like about the RSVP though. It said something like " a reservation has been made for ____ people to attend."  The blank had the number of people and you checked yes or no for attending.  I wish I had known about this wording for my son's wedding and my mom's 85th birthday party. Both those invites said number attending. Well, you invite Mr. and Mrs.(2) and they RSVP 3,4,5 etc. Even after I made calls explaining only the people addressed on the envelope were invited I still had one couple bring an extra family member to my mom's party. They had only responded for the 2 invited. Geesh! What's wrong with people!  Is a free meal really that important! 

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LOL.  I feel your pain.

When we got married (9 years ago) I had already heard too many RSVP stories of 5 people showing up on a Mr/Mrs invite.  So for the FEW people I thought could be a 'problem' I had handwritten calligraphy RSVPs written noting the number of reservations in their names.  No option for a write in #.  

[chrystaltree]

Failing to put the address on the rsvp envelope makes no sense at all and borders on being stupid.  I think people who do that don't really understand the rsvp process.  I doubt that it's to force people to go online.  If that were the case, they would just omit the envelope and provide the link to rsvp.   Which happened to me once for a bridal shower.  it was one of those big, over the top, co-ed showers that is as big as the wedding.  There was an rsvp card with the link to rsvp online. 

[Melania]

Try waiting for replies when you did everything right. All the lazy invitees have to do is say yes or no, lick the envelope and mail it. It's rude!!

I'm in the midst of this right now and have to  call about 8 people to find out if they are coming...grrr.

One relative didn't feel the need to let us know either way but would the first one to complain down the family pipeline if they didn't get a thank you.

So it works both ways...the people that do everything right get no credit.

[ECBG]

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@Abrowneyegirl wrote:

I do not know why this bothers me, but it does.......

When I receive a wedding invite, I like to send back the RSVP right away before it gets lost, I forget or lose it.

The last 2 invites we received had NO return address on the RSVP envelope or postage!!!!!!! Grrrrr

Now I have to find out to whom I send the RSVP to, is it the Bride, Groom, Parents, Maid/Matron of Honor.....?

I got one VM back, send it to "XYZ".  Thank you, but I need XYZ address.......Grrrrr

I had a young co-worker tell me that failure to put address/postage on RSVP's is to force the guests into wedding website to RSVP online.    Grrrrrr

I do not know why this irks me but it does.

Sorry, had to get that off my chest.

thank you

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@Abrowneyegirl,Do they ask for the reciept with the gift too?  (Just had to ask!)

[Abrowneyegirl]

@ECBG

LOL!!!!!

My thought was to put a note in the Wedding card that says "your gift can be picked up at (blank)" and let them figure it out like I have to.