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[happygolfcartrider]

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@happygolfcartrider wrote:

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@catwhisperer wrote:

@happygolfcartrider...I think you have me confused with @Moonchilde. She did not make reference to people who volunteer, I did. Please refer to my post #70 that I edited regarding that issue. Thank you.

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My apologies to @Moonchilde 

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@catwhisperer I find that people that volunteer have good hearts and that is why they do it. If on occasion they feel the need to "brag" about what they do maybe it is to get others involved. There are so many ways to volunteer and unfortunately not enough people to give of their time. In my experience it is the same few people in the community or Church that do everything.

[happygolfcartrider]

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@Moonchilde wrote:

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@happygolfcartrider wrote:

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@Moonchilde wrote:

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@catwhisperer wrote:

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@Moonchilde wrote:

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@1MrsT wrote:

I'd rather people cuss like a sailor and show true kindness and acceptance of others. I know people who never curse, but they think nothing of cheating on their taxes and their spouses, and yet look down on everyone they come into contact with.

So for me...morality is something more than language, though I have to say I cringe when I hear JC or GD used. I guess we all have something that trips our triggers.

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Those who frequently speak of morals and morality in a superior fashion (not meaning you) are often those who look down on everyone who isn't their personal clone, and aren't shy about expressing it. They also frequently express that "mama taught" them not to say/do certain things. Bless their hearts, I think mama left out the lesson on being superciliously rude.

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@Moonchilde.... as always, you hit the nail on the head. Unfortunately, I grew up in a household where profanity was a daily occurance. As I posted previously, I let it fly every day, but in my own home, not in public. I was not raised with a silver spoon in my mouth and don't claim to be better than anyone else, so I just cringe and roll my eyes when I read some of the posts on these forums. Some people seem to have the need to let others know how perfect and wonderful they are. Oh, look at me, I volunteered today, I did this, I did that. Gag me with a spoon.

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Interestingly, I grew up in a household where I was taught not to use 4-letter words because they weren't "ladylike", although ladylike or not, my mother would occasionally swear, though never used the f-word.

She never failed to chastise me, whenever we were together throughout my life, if I let fly with any 4-letter words. She also never failed to tell me she didn't like my hair - ever ;-)

Yet I swear anyway. Not routinely around others or in public, and not knowingly around those I know don't like it. To me, "don't approve" is different than "don't like"; I respect the latter but not the former ;-)

As has been said before, swearing in times of physical pain lessens the perception of that pain (scientifically studied and appears to be true); for me at least it also mitigates emotional stress and anger. I think few would disagree that using the f-word is better than driving someone off the road in a rage, as an example I can think of where I would not personally be inclined to do such a thing, but many others would, and do, every day.

So yeah, it has its place and its uses, and no Church Lady is going to "shame" me otherwise. I use the CL term not to denigrate religion per se, but only the type of person personified by Dana Carvey's character, complete with pursed lips/prune face.

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No, I'm not.  No cigar.

I expressed my opinion of people who behave like the fictional character created by Dana Carvey. I hardly think ALL men and women who volunteer resemble this character. The great majority of those whose "volunteering" involves a religious body hardly resemble the character, either.

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[catwhisperer]

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@happygolfcartrider wrote:

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@happygolfcartrider wrote:

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@catwhisperer wrote:

@happygolfcartrider...I think you have me confused with @Moonchilde. She did not make reference to people who volunteer, I did. Please refer to my post #70 that I edited regarding that issue. Thank you.

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My apologies to @Moonchilde 

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@catwhisperer I find that people that volunteer have good hearts and that is why they do it. If on occasion they feel the need to "brag" about what they do maybe it is to get others involved. There are so many ways to volunteer and unfortunately not enough people to give of their time. In my experience it is the same few people in the community or Church that do everything.

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@happygolfcartrider...I totally agree with you. It's just that I have noticed a couple posters in particular on the boards who seem to feel the need to impress people with their good deeds. The people who really impress me are the ones who do good without bringing it to everyones attention.

[mamakins]

Yes and Amen to the use of Jesus Christ as a cus word...Shame! I also cannot stand the use of God's name either. whether just an expression or as a curse word. And to ****** God? wouldn't touch that...ugh! Yes, I am old fashion. And I also think that we should go back to the era when ladies were ladies.Women's lib has caused us to become so equal to men, I find it hard to tell the difference. SAD! I miss the femininity in society. We use to hold a real standard and expected to be treated like a lady. Now, we are just one of the guys. I like common courtesy's, doors held open, dirty language not being used around me. Oh, guess I am on a rant. Thanks for allowing me to also vent. 

[happygolfcartrider]

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@catwhisperer wrote:

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@happygolfcartrider wrote:

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@happygolfcartrider wrote:

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@catwhisperer wrote:

@happygolfcartrider...I think you have me confused with @Moonchilde. She did not make reference to people who volunteer, I did. Please refer to my post #70 that I edited regarding that issue. Thank you.

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My apologies to @Moonchilde 

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@catwhisperer I find that people that volunteer have good hearts and that is why they do it. If on occasion they feel the need to "brag" about what they do maybe it is to get others involved. There are so many ways to volunteer and unfortunately not enough people to give of their time. In my experience it is the same few people in the community or Church that do everything.

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@happygolfcartrider...I totally agree with you. It's just that I have noticed a couple posters in particular on the boards who seem to feel the need to impress people with their good deeds. The people who really impress me are the ones who do good without bringing it to everyones attention.

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@catwhisperer I understand what you are saying but sometimes people need to feel appreciated. Maybe they are insecure and that is the way they feel better about themselves. It is best to do good deeds quietly but if someone tells me what they have done I try to make tthem feel like a million $$$$ for what they did.

[catwhisperer]

@happygolfcartrider....what you say makes sense. Thanks.

[walkingal]

I don't think it's being prudish if you don't like and don't use vulgar language.  The world and our culture have become so coarse.  I'm lucky, none of my friends and family for that matter use profanity, especially the F word.  I hate to hear that word coming from women. 

Speaking of profanity, I was in the library the other day, and in the reading area were two men talking to each other.  It was obvious they weren't there to look for books!  They were having a rather loud grand old conversation with the F word thrown in every so often.  Where are people's manners and respect for others.  If they want to talk like that, do it in their homes -- in front of their wives and children.  I was so glad that one of the librarians asked the guard to talk to them.  Adults -- having to be corrected for their language.  This sure is a different world. 

[walkingal]

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@muttmom wrote:

I hate hearing the f-bomb under any circumstance.

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Sad, but it's become part of the vernacular.  I had always watched the movie "My Cousin Vinny" on one of the family channels.  Recently, I watched it on one of the comedy cable channels where it is not edited.  I had no idea how many F bombs were in it.  Totally unnecessary.  It made it seem like just another B movie. 

[esmeesmerelda]

Jmo but I think heavy use of profanity is a sign of a limited vocabulary. Seems to be a sign of the times though. Dumb down the vocabulary, maybe people are reading less. Dunno.

[esmeesmerelda]

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@walkingal wrote:

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@muttmom wrote:

I hate hearing the f-bomb under any circumstance.

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Sad, but it's become part of the vernacular.  I had always watched the movie "My Cousin Vinny" on one of the family channels.  Recently, I watched it on one of the comedy cable channels where it is not edited.  I had no idea how many F bombs were in it.  Totally unnecessary.  It made it seem like just another B movie. 

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Agree it's pervasive in films. Is that what the public wants? Or maybe it's a reflection of what the public does.

Love "My Cousin Vinny" though. Very funny.