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Mom2Dogs · ‎03-09-2010

@Puzzle Piece Ouch for sure....I would not contact her but that is me....maybe she will realize what she said and contact you. Sometimes it is hard to get past words that are spoken out loud, when completely uncalled for.

TRUE STORY: My sister who I was relatively close with sent me a note in the mail saying never contact her again, this came out of nowhere...from what I read in the letter someone turned her into job and family for a home investigation, it was not me but I suspect my other sister could have done it or maybe even a neighbor, I have no idea.

She lives about 5 hours from me so we did not see each other a lot but spoke on the phone...I never contacted her again, not even to tell her it was not me, it was not worth it to me, her mind was made up. I did see her at my grandmas funeral but that was 15 years ago, we briefly spoke but that was it...I am not mad, I was very hurt at the time but I no longer care.

I am sorry this happened to you.

shy bobcat · ‎04-24-2010

@Puzzle Piece I would be very hurt by what this acquaintance said to me and, would need a little time to heal my emotional wound.

Since this person is going through a stressful time and unfortunately took their frustration out on you, I would try and give them grace.

Haven't most of us lashed out hurtful words that we didn't mean when we were upset? Of course, this is easier said than done.

occasionalrain · ‎03-10-2010

I would respect her wish.

I would not try to contact her nor would I send a card which may be taken contrary to how it was intended.

cody2 · ‎03-19-2010

I would ask myself if this were the first time she had ever behaved like this with me? If not, I would just let the friendship go. Not worth always wondering when it would happen again. If this was the first time, I would probably not think that this outburst was about me but more likely something else is causing her behavior. Maybe there are other problems in her life right now and the potential loss of her kitty just is the breaking point. In this case I would make an effort to be supportive and give her another chance. Of course, it would matter how long this friendship had been up to now. Good friends are a gift. Hold on to them.

Mombo1 · ‎11-02-2015

@Puzzle Piece Your post made me think of something written by Maya Angelou.

People will forget what you said..

People will forget what you did..

But people will never forget how you made them feel...

Hopefully...in time..your friend will get through her issues and re-think what she said to you.

ThinkingOutLoud · ‎05-01-2020

@Puzzle Piece wrote:
To forgive or not to forgive. To overlook or not.

Had a conversation with an acquaintnce. They are going through a stressful time. As they are a cat lover, one of the cats is probably going to be euthanized this week and the person is greatly bothered by the whole ordeal.
My aqaintance took out their frustration on me and went back weeks/months of words we spoke and told me they didn't want to ever speak to me again. ????? Ouch. I was not expecting this outburst as I am not to blame for the ordeals they have gone through in life.

Would you just lick your wounds and let this go or would you try to contact them in the fututre to see if they are doing any better?

Always forgive. (this does not mean you put yourself in a position to be hurt over and over again)

It never hurts to extend a kindness. Sending a note later this month might soften their heart (ie sorry for your circumstances, hope things look up soon). Even if nothing comes of it, you being the bigger person matters.

Sorry this happened. I'm sure it's just their excess stress at play.

occasionalrain · ‎03-10-2010

Her beloved cat is dead so how could things possibly look up soon?

rockygems123 · ‎06-04-2012

@Puzzle Piece

I gave a friend space in January as she was beyond angry after the election results. By space I mean I blocked her from calling and texting.

She managed to contact me again in June via email, still angry, blaming the word for her many many bad decisions she's made over the years. Stood by her over the years no matter how stupid her decisions were.

She's on her own now, can't help fix her anger and no longer can handle the toxicity.

Maybe space will help with your situation my personal ordeal with this person has luckily come to an end.

ThinkingOutLoud · ‎05-01-2020

@occasionalrain wrote:
Her beloved cat is dead so how could things possibly look up soon?

Time heals and it's not healthy to stay in grief for too long. Life is about overcoming, moving on and growing from our experiences.

Mz iMac · ‎07-26-2014

@Puzzle Piece wrote:
To forgive or not to forgive. To overlook or not.

Had a conversation with an acquaintnce.

Would you just lick your wounds and let this go or would you try to contact them in the fututre to see if they are doing any better?

@Puzzle Piece Neither!

My PERSONAL OPINION: An "acquaintnce" is NOT a friend therfore, no wounds to lick. I would not give this person another thought.

"Never argue with a fool. Onlookers may not be able to tell the difference."