Re: Ok. I need validation.

Group 5 minus 1 · ‎03-11-2010

It is head over heels.

KarenQVC · ‎05-13-2010

You were right to be ticked if this hurt leg story is a lie. Never set this guy up again. He is not boyfriend material. And since when can't you be mature enough to handle a nice dinner with friends and then let it go at that? This was not Married At First Sight!

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

@RINNI wrote:
First thing that came to my mind. Why didn't HE call you. Would have been the correct thing to do. You could get the apology first hand. He hurt his leg- has nothing to do with picking the phone up himself. Sounds like he is old enough to speak for himself also.

If you have friends, you know it's easy to get trapped into agreeing to something when they start pushing and pressuring you. It's possible that that the boyfriend to please his lady and the poor guy went along with the fix up. Probably thought "it's just dinner" and freaked out when he heard that it was anything but "just dinner". When you do something like this, most people do it over drinks. Not a big fancy dinner in someone's home. That's just too much when the two people are just being introduced to each other. And if he really did hurt his leg, the last thing he would think about is calling his friend's girlfriend. It makes sense that he'd call his friend to say "sorry, can't make it tonight". If they decide to give another try, they should make it drinks or lunch.

spent2much · ‎03-10-2010

@Sooner wrote:

You all could have had some nice laughs and a great dinner! If he comes some other time, give him a ham sandwich!

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

ETERNITY: your choice... smoking or non smoking!

Ditzydori · ‎03-10-2010

Thanks for all your replies. I so enjoyed reading them.

All is well. My BF, my friend and myself all had dinner tonight. We had a great time. My dinner was delish. I gave my friend and BF lots of leftovers. My honey said his friend blew his chance. My friend is a lovely woman.

For those of you who stated it was my choice to cook dinner you are correct. I did it from the bottom of my heart, but that doesn’t excuse rudeness. I found out tonight he, indeed chickened out. But no harm done and an important lesson learned. We had a great time. His loss. But you are correct. He probably couldn’t handle the pressure. I’m not getting involved again. Like I said. Lesson learned ame no harm done.

Once again, your replies were very much appreciated.

elated · ‎06-09-2010

I think you are probably upset over having to fixing dinner and then having your BF's friend backing out. You don't know him and things happen; people change their minds. Your dinner sounded great. I would have had my BF and girlfriend still come over. Life goes on and enjoy while we still can.

If his friend still wants to meet your friend, it will happen. If not nothing gained or nothing lost. I find everything always happens for the best.

P.S. I think it would have been a gentlemanly thing to do was to offer you compensation for the money you spent.

Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

@elated wrote:
I think you are probably upset over having to fixing dinner and then having your BF's friend backing out. You don't know him and things happen; people change their minds. Your dinner sounded great. I would have had my BF and girlfriend still come over. Life goes on and enjoy while we still can.

If his friend still wants to meet your friend, it will happen. If not nothing gained or nothing lost. I find everything always happens for the best.

P.S. I think it would have been a gentlemanly thing to do was to offer you compensation for the money you spent.

@elated To be offered money now that would REALLY insult me! The rest of it? Things like that happen and people will always surprise you!

suzyQ3 · ‎03-09-2010

I was fixed up with a guy when I was in high school and he was in college.

We've been married for 51 years.

~Who in the world am I? Ah, that's the great puzzle~ Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland

elated · ‎06-09-2010

@Sooner wrote:
@elated wrote:
I think you are probably upset over having to fixing dinner and then having your BF's friend backing out. You don't know him and things happen; people change their minds. Your dinner sounded great. I would have had my BF and girlfriend still come over. Life goes on and enjoy while we still can.

If his friend still wants to meet your friend, it will happen. If not nothing gained or nothing lost. I find everything always happens for the best.

P.S. I think it would have been a gentlemanly thing to do was to offer you compensation for the money you spent.
@elated To be offered money now that would REALLY insult me! The rest of it? Things like that happen and people will always surprise you!

Why would that insult you? It would be a kind gesture after you went through all the time and effort to make a great dinner. I don't understand your point of view. You could turn the offer down.

Financialgrl · ‎03-13-2010

You've done the #1 thing I have never (and will never do) - set up a friend or two friends you know. If it doesn't work out one or both of them will be angry with you.