Not Sure How to Handle this Situation

Frosted Cake · ‎02-01-2016

I really need some advice.

I am in need of a part-time job and haven't worked in many years. I went to my local city who has a program for job seekers. They do resume writing workshops, interviewing techniques, etc. I met with this one lady one-on-one. She is the head of their media dept and she gave me advice about how to market myself now and ways to get noticed on an interview, etc. Her advice has been beneficial.

Recently, she invited me to her church to hear the pastor speak. I have my own faith and spiritual beliefs and just didn't want to join her at her church. But, I didn't think much about her asking me.

I had an interview that didn't go so well. I e-mailed this gal and told her how disappointed I was and discouraged. She wrote me an e-mail response that stated unless I come to her church and accept her God, I would never find my way. She implied that my life and situation would not change until I accepted her view of God. She invited me again to come to her church.

I politely wrote her back thanking her for her caring, but informing her that I had my own faith and spiritual beliefs that I follow. I told her I admired her strength of conviction. She wrote back that she hopes I change my mind and will reconsider and basically said good luck and good-bye.

It's upsetting to me because for one, she works for the city gov't and shouldn't be proselytizing in her role. Secondly, now I feel totally uncomfortable using that valuable resource provided by the city. A friend of mine said I should report her to someone in charge. I don't know what to do. I know she saw me as vulnerable, and I wonder how many others she might have done the same thing to. I don't think she meant any "harm" per se, but it's just not appropriate to cross that line in any organization or government entity.

I respect her for her convictions, but I don't like that my ability to utilize her services in the career development program to be contingent on my spirituality. She is the only one who provides one-on-one support.

I'm still applying for jobs within the city, so I don't know what to do about this situation.

PhilaLady1 · ‎03-11-2010

Hi Frosted Cake, I am sure there are others here that can give you a more articulate and thorough reply than I can. I just want to first wish you you good luck and hope you find a job that suits you. Your story about the woman at the workshop makes me so angry. I hate when people try to shove their religion down your throat. I would report her.

jackthebear · ‎03-11-2010

wow tough one,

I think first I would print those emails between you showing all the to/from info (isp) etc if she using company email to send them.

Let's see what others have to say, and for the record she is totally out of line.

Born agains often think that their way is the only way. I once worked with somone liked that

goldensrbest · ‎03-10-2010

I do not think she should had said that to you at all, i am a christian, and yes we need to speak about our GOD, but this was un called for.

When you lose some one you L~O~V~E, that Memory of them, becomes a TREASURE.

chi5925 · ‎03-09-2010

@Frosted Cake wrote:
I really need some advice.

I am in need of a part-time job and haven't worked in many years. I went to my local city who has a program for job seekers. They do resume writing workshops, interviewing techniques, etc. I met with this one lady one-on-one. She is the head of their media dept and she gave me advice about how to market myself now and ways to get noticed on an interview, etc. Her advice has been beneficial.

Recently, she invited me to her church to hear the pastor speak. I have my own faith and spiritual beliefs and just didn't want to join her at her church. But, I didn't think much about her asking me.

I had an interview that didn't go so well. I e-mailed this gal and told her how disappointed I was and discouraged. She wrote me an e-mail response that stated unless I come to her church and accept her God, I would never find my way. She implied that my life and situation would not change until I accepted her view of God. She invited me again to come to her church.

I politely wrote her back thanking her for her caring, but informing her that I had my own faith and spiritual beliefs that I follow. I told her I admired her strength of conviction. She wrote back that she hopes I change my mind and will reconsider and basically said good luck and good-bye.

It's upsetting to me because for one, she works for the city gov't and shouldn't be proselytizing in her role. Secondly, now I feel totally uncomfortable using that valuable resource provided by the city. A friend of mine said I should report her to someone in charge. I don't know what to do. I know she saw me as vulnerable, and I wonder how many others she might have done the same thing to. I don't think she meant any "harm" per se, but it's just not appropriate to cross that line in any organization or government entity.

I respect her for her convictions, but I don't like that my ability to utilize her services in the career development program to be contingent on my spirituality. She is the only one who provides one-on-one support.

I'm still applying for jobs within the city, so I don't know what to do about this situation.

She's a bona fide nut case.

I'd report her. If her comments ("finding your way") and inviting you to her church were done while she was working as an employee of the city government, she needs to have her lips zipped.

Gosh....people who prosthelacize (sp?) to anyone-and-everyone need to get a grip.

JMO

jackthebear · ‎03-11-2010

@chi5925 wrote:
@Frosted Cake wrote:
I really need some advice.

I am in need of a part-time job and haven't worked in many years. I went to my local city who has a program for job seekers. They do resume writing workshops, interviewing techniques, etc. I met with this one lady one-on-one. She is the head of their media dept and she gave me advice about how to market myself now and ways to get noticed on an interview, etc. Her advice has been beneficial.

Recently, she invited me to her church to hear the pastor speak. I have my own faith and spiritual beliefs and just didn't want to join her at her church. But, I didn't think much about her asking me.

I had an interview that didn't go so well. I e-mailed this gal and told her how disappointed I was and discouraged. She wrote me an e-mail response that stated unless I come to her church and accept her God, I would never find my way. She implied that my life and situation would not change until I accepted her view of God. She invited me again to come to her church.

I politely wrote her back thanking her for her caring, but informing her that I had my own faith and spiritual beliefs that I follow. I told her I admired her strength of conviction. She wrote back that she hopes I change my mind and will reconsider and basically said good luck and good-bye.

It's upsetting to me because for one, she works for the city gov't and shouldn't be proselytizing in her role. Secondly, now I feel totally uncomfortable using that valuable resource provided by the city. A friend of mine said I should report her to someone in charge. I don't know what to do. I know she saw me as vulnerable, and I wonder how many others she might have done the same thing to. I don't think she meant any "harm" per se, but it's just not appropriate to cross that line in any organization or government entity.

I respect her for her convictions, but I don't like that my ability to utilize her services in the career development program to be contingent on my spirituality. She is the only one who provides one-on-one support.

I'm still applying for jobs within the city, so I don't know what to do about this situation.

She's a bona fide nut case.

I'd report her. If her comments ("finding your way") and inviting you to her church were done while she was working as an employee of the city government, she needs to have her lips zipped.

Gosh....people who proselytize (sp?) to anyone-and-everyone need to get a grip.

JMO

totally agree,

spell checked it for you is that OK ?

Goldengate8361 · ‎01-27-2014

@Frosted Cake She is a quack! Be grateful that she "showed you who she really is." Run, dont walk, away from her. There are many wonderful people out there that would happily support and assist you. I am a business executive and I don't know a single person who wouldn't gladly accept a request by someone for a 15 minute "informational interview." You need to continue to do what you're doing...getting out and networking and reaching out to others. I really, really wish you the best!

Frosted Cake · ‎02-01-2016

Thank you for all your replies.

I didn't know what to think about all of this.

It's a shame because she did provide good tips in the job search.

She sent the e-mails (which I have all saved) via her personal account, but many times during work hours.

KringleB · ‎03-22-2012

Extremely inappropriate for her to push her beliefs on you and refusting to do her job unless you attend her church. I'd report her!!! Your beliefs are none of her business and she has no right pushing it on your or anyone else. Since she works for your city government I'd report her. Please let us know what you decide to do but I wouldn't hesitate. She didn't do her job AND she what she did is wrong!!!!!

1jenniferjuniper · ‎03-09-2010

@Frosted Cake wrote:
I really need some advice.

I am in need of a part-time job and haven't worked in many years. I went to my local city who has a program for job seekers. They do resume writing workshops, interviewing techniques, etc. I met with this one lady one-on-one. She is the head of their media dept and she gave me advice about how to market myself now and ways to get noticed on an interview, etc. Her advice has been beneficial.

Recently, she invited me to her church to hear the pastor speak. I have my own faith and spiritual beliefs and just didn't want to join her at her church. But, I didn't think much about her asking me.

I had an interview that didn't go so well. I e-mailed this gal and told her how disappointed I was and discouraged. She wrote me an e-mail response that stated unless I come to her church and accept her God, I would never find my way. She implied that my life and situation would not change until I accepted her view of God. She invited me again to come to her church.

I politely wrote her back thanking her for her caring, but informing her that I had my own faith and spiritual beliefs that I follow. I told her I admired her strength of conviction. She wrote back that she hopes I change my mind and will reconsider and basically said good luck and good-bye.

It's upsetting to me because for one, she works for the city gov't and shouldn't be proselytizing in her role. Secondly, now I feel totally uncomfortable using that valuable resource provided by the city. A friend of mine said I should report her to someone in charge. I don't know what to do. I know she saw me as vulnerable, and I wonder how many others she might have done the same thing to. I don't think she meant any "harm" per se, but it's just not appropriate to cross that line in any organization or government entity.

I respect her for her convictions, but I don't like that my ability to utilize her services in the career development program to be contingent on my spirituality. She is the only one who provides one-on-one support.

I'm still applying for jobs within the city, so I don't know what to do about this situation.