Not Sure How to Handle this Situation - Page 15

jubilant · ‎06-10-2010

I keep coming back here to check on the outcome as I am interested to see how this works out. If op has the evidence to prove her accusations and this woman coerced her and used her job to lord her opinions over someone, there should be no problem and it should go in op's favor.

Personally, I felt op was somewhat confused in the beginning and unsure of what happened.....then, when others started giving her advise I got the feeling that ....that is when she really got very emotional. It was like she was taking on the opinions of others and it just kept escalating ( I call that "the crescendo effect") I have seen it before. Maybe I am wrong....but this is what I felt I was seeing. I am hoping that this gets settled the way it should....fairly. They have the facts. They have the emails....we don't!! People are supposed to be innocent until proven guilty.

missy1 · ‎03-10-2010

@SaRina wrote:
@NYC Susan wrote:
@missy1 wrote:
This complaint will go on file when you apply for future city jobs, even though she said it won't.

I do hope you get the outcome you are looking for.

How could you possibly know something like this? I don't understand the need to be so negative. She did the right thing, and - as many of us told her - it is being taken seriously.
@While proselytizing is way up there in my "Irks List", I'd have to agree with @missy1 about the possibility, even probability, that this complaint could affect the OP's future in city employment. Most supervisors (in this case, a city official) are adept at being professional and acting concerned, but that doesn't preclude them from making the proverbial black check mark. I've been there. If getting a job was the OP's priority, I would have waited to file the complaint (and I definitely would have) until after she continued her job search and secured a job.

I'm not saying this will happen, but one important thing I learned in my life and always remind myself before taking an important action is....for every action, there is a reaction.

I am not being negative, it's being realistic. I would like to hear the employees side of things. (we won't, of course)

Frosted Cake · ‎02-01-2016

Nothing much to update. I met with 2 people. I met with the Asst. City Mgr and then the Mgr of the dept where this woman works. They were both apologetic to me. The Mgr of her dept advised me to come back for job advice as there are other people to work with.

I believe they are going to meet with her but with the 3 day weekend, who knows when. They were nice, took me seriously.

That's all I know as of this time. I stopped coming on my thread when people were questioning my validity. I'm in a stressful situation in my life, and I didn't need this issue with this woman to further strain my trust of others.

Thank you.