Among Friends

[debic]

I've only went to one friend's children's weddings.  The kids invited me and I also made their wedding cakes.   

I've also made wedding cakes for a couple that I didn't attend.  Good friends with the Mother only and did them for  her.

[Firefly3]

NO!.......Forget about it and go buy something great for you!

[151949]

Is this the wedding where they sent you a save the date? You said you didn't really care if you weren't invited. It is the height of rude, IMO, to send a save the date and then not invite the people.

[Noel7]

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@Moretofollow wrote:

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@Deb1010yetagain wrote:

Don't take it personally.  It's a decision based on cost and certain cut offs had to be made.  Be gracious and don't let it ruin your friendship.

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People need to downsize - change the venue - and live within their means so everyone can be invited.  I'm always shocked how some rationalize their abhorrent behavior dissing people they supposedly care about and then wonder why those that they have offended want nothing more to do with you.  

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It's the mom's friend, not a friend of the bride or groom who may not even know her well.

A bride and groom invites their friends, not everyone their parent ever knew.  Not unless they are the adult child of someone in show biz or Wall Street.

[jackthebear]

certainly OK to be upset not be invited anywhere.

However think of the money you are saving on a dress for you, (spouse's outfit) getting your hair and makeup done, gifts and the other expenses.

[KathyPet]

If the couple is paying for the wedding themselves (as many are these days) then the guest list belongs to them to decide who to invite.  Your friend may have had no or very limited input.  Often the couple will choose to invite friends of their parents only if they have had a close and meaningful relationship with those friends.