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[mom2four0418]

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@Anonymous032819 wrote:

Spouses shouldn't have to manipulate each other in order to get their way.

That's just childish and immature.

If one has to manipulate and trick their spouse in order to get their way, then maybe they should reconsider being married in the first place.

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It just sounds exhausting and terribly sad.

[SeaMaiden]

@rms1954    I quit relying on my Husband and Hire people to do what I need or want done. I have people clean and stain my front and back decks every two years... it costs $3500 but it gets done in MY TIME FRAME and gets done right. 

[rms1954]

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@mom2four0418 wrote:

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@Anonymous032819 wrote:

Spouses shouldn't have to manipulate each other in order to get their way.

That's just childish and immature.

If one has to manipulate and trick their spouse in order to get their way, then maybe they should reconsider being married in the first place.

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It just sounds exhausting and terribly sad.

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It is both.  

[rms1954]

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@Anonymous032819 wrote:

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@rms1954 wrote:

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@AuntG wrote:

Don't feel too bad.I'd just be happy the project is getting done.

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I don't.  People feel better about judging.  It's done and it's over.  

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So you choose to  be miserable??? 

Remember, attitude is a choice.

You can either choose to be happy, or you can choose to be miserable.

It's up to you on which you want to be.

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It's not always that simple.  If you believe it is, then you're naive.

[Anonymous032819]

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@rms1954 wrote:

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@Anonymous032819 wrote:

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@rms1954 wrote:

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@AuntG wrote:

Don't feel too bad.I'd just be happy the project is getting done.

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I don't.  People feel better about judging.  It's done and it's over.  

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So you choose to  be miserable??? 

Remember, attitude is a choice.

You can either choose to be happy, or you can choose to be miserable.

It's up to you on which you want to be.

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It's not always that simple.  If you believe it is, then you're naive.

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@rms1954 

Life is short. Too short to spend your remaining days choosing to stay in a loveless marraige, married to a man that you clearly hate, instead  of leaving and finding happiness elsewhere.

Saying that you can't, is just a cop-out and and an excuse, to stay in the "victim" mentality.

But, maybe you enjoy being miserable and bitter. Why else would you stay with a man that you clearly hate? 

Leave him and be happy, or stay and be miserable.

That's the choice you have. 

It really is as simple  as that.  Saying that it isn't , is just an excuse.

[rms1954]

@Anonymous032819 No need for me to get into my life decisions with you.  Think what you want.  You don't know everything about me or my life or the choices I've made.  I am glad things are so simplifed for you.